Nina Caplan says: “My advice for a good marriage? Don’t start with a dream wedding”

30 Jan

 

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/dec/22/good-marriage-dream-wedding-inner-barbra-streisand-middle-aged-love

You can of course go to the above link of The Guardian and read the whole article but here is just a little bit of what NINA CAPLAN says on the subject of marriage:

” . . . .  Matrimony may make you wealthier, but the power isn’t vested in any institution to make you happier, or more secure in the psychological rather than the custodial sense. Only the right partnership can do that.

And – surprise, surprise – here is a study that tells us that this is exactly what the right partnership does. Data taken from more than 350,000 people in two UK surveys, analysed by researchers from the Vancouver School of Economics, informs us that married people are happier than single ones, that those in committed relationships, even without the paperwork, are as happy as those who have put a ring on it – and that the middle-aged are the most happily hitched of all.  . .

10 Responses to “Nina Caplan says: “My advice for a good marriage? Don’t start with a dream wedding””

  1. gerard oosterman January 30, 2018 at 12:16 pm #

    The more lavish a wedding, the shorter the marriage.

    • auntyuta January 30, 2018 at 12:24 pm #

      This may be true, Gerard!
      Best wishes for Helvi for tomorrow.
      “Just to be sure”, this is what we are going to see tomorrow in the New Empire;

      • gerard oosterman January 30, 2018 at 1:27 pm #

        I am sure you both will enjoy this movie.

      • auntyuta January 30, 2018 at 3:25 pm #

        Yes, we’re looking forward to it! 🙂

  2. stuartbramhall January 31, 2018 at 5:02 am #

    Thanks for posting, Aunty. I really hate the way modern women are brainwashed by the advertising industry to spend thousands of dollars increasing corporate profits.

    • auntyuta January 31, 2018 at 8:41 am #

      Thanks, Stuart. Our youngest daughter is only 39 (I am 83!) She has never been married but has known her partner for 12 years. For over a year they have planned their wedding that is going to take place on the 17th of February. A bit over two weeks to go from now! We’re all very excited. They planned everything themselves to keep the costs down. But they planned for a lot of details to make the celebration a joyful occasion for family and friends.

  3. Sue Dreamwalker January 31, 2018 at 9:19 pm #

    I have to smile wide today Uta reading this post .. As today is our 43rd wedding Anniversary.. and we had a very simple wedding as our families at the time were at logger heads.. So we had just two best friends and went to the registrar office .. I had friends who did the whole white wedding bit and were divorced two years later. 🙂
    Marriage is give and take and you need to be also best of friends as well as lovers.. 🙂

    • auntyuta February 1, 2018 at 5:48 am #

      Your comment rings very true to me, Sue, because Peter and I married under similar circumstances 61 years ago! 🙂

      • Sue Dreamwalker February 1, 2018 at 8:57 am #

        Wow.. Congratulations Uta, and I hope we reach that number 🙂 xxxx ❤

      • auntyuta February 2, 2018 at 7:38 am #

        Thanks, Sue. If we’re lucky, maybe we can add a few more numbers!

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