I find this article very interesting.
Why isn’t it mentioned, what happens after age 59?
Asexless marriageis a marital union in which little or nosexual activityoccurs between the twospouses. The US National Health and Social Life Survey in 1992 found that 2% of the married respondents (aged 18 to 59) reported no sexual intimacy in the past year.The definition of a non-sexual marriage is often broadened to include those where sexual intimacy occurs fewer than ten times per year, in which case 20 percent of the couples in the National Health and Social Life Survey would be in the category. Other studies show that 10% or less of the married population below age 50 have not had sex in the past year. In addition less than 20% report having sex a few times per year, or even monthly, under the age 40.
Sexless marriages can…
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Hello, Uta..I cannot seem to be able to put a comment up on the above article..so here it is, if you could place it up on the blog article..ta..Joe. It takes four different personalities to make a relationship partner..: The one for material security..Another for personal/emotional security…then another for intellectual compatibility so that leaves the fourth…perhaps the most demanding and important..; the lover…the sexual personality..This last “ingredient” is the most overlooked or perhaps avoided because of the inherent “difficulty” in its invasive intrusion into both body and soul of each of us….and I believe this difficulty is exacerbated by the treatment of erotic stimulation as a social taboo.
Eroticism is both a natural and essential ingredient for both a healthy sex life and life in general…the sexual stimulations we meet in the everyday actions we go about in mostly go un-noticed..That attractive person shopping near you..the sudden laughter of man or woman that both delights and catches your ear…perhaps the sensual timbre of a person’s voice or even the deliberate flirt of a complete stranger whilst standing in a queue somewhere…
I remember leaning against my car whilst waiting for my wife to meet me and a woman was walking toward me down the footpath..she was stylishly dressed in “executive” pants suit with long coat open at the front so it billowed as she approached…nice shoes and she was carrying a briefcase…her long dark hair set the image off so well, as she came near me I smiled, gave her an appreciative nod of my head in recognition of her dress and demeanor and said…;” Very nice..very stylish….”..to which she in turn smiled and said a polite ; “Thank you”..and walked on.
That is all that is needed to connect across genders to make both parties feel good about the other…
Sorry, Joe, I could not place it up on the blog article either. I don’t know, why this is so.
Yes, to be recognized like this by the opposite sex furthers the self esteem. I still have this kind of self esteem, and I call myself lucky, that this is so. After all, I am close to being 88 and in all probability cannot count on living much longer. Will I still look sexy to the opposite sex when I am in my nineties? Well, even if I make it to the nineties, looking a bit sexy is bound to have less and less meaning, this is what I think.
From when I was 22 until I was 86 I was married. During my married life I was often very much aware, that I had chances of opting for a new sex partner! But as a married woman, I took care, not to act on these chances. Even during these times, when I had no or hardly any sex with my husband! 🙂
Maybe the chances diminish a lot anyway as one gets older. If you look at the above article, they were researching only till people turned 59. Why do you think, that is, Joe?
“. . . they were researching only till people turned 59. Why do you think, that is, Joe?”………”None so blind as those who will not see….”