Sridevi

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Shree Amma Yanger Ayyappan (13 August 1963 – 24 February 2018), known professionally as Sridevi, was an Indian actress who worked in TeluguTamilHindiMalayalam, and Kannada language films.[10][11] Cited as the “First Female Superstar” of Indian cinema,[10][11] she was the recipient of various accolades, including a National Film Award, a Kerala State Film Award, a Nandi Award, a Tamil Nadu State Film Award, four Filmfare Awards, including a Filmfare Lifetime Achievement Award and three Filmfare Awards South.[12] Sridevi’s career in Indian cinema spanned over 50 years in a range of genres from slapstick comedy to epic dramas. She was known for her reticent and introverted personality, but headstrong and outspoken screen persona, regularly playing strong-willed, sophisticated women.[13][14] In 2013, Sridevi was honoured with the Padma Shri, the country’s fourth highest civilian honour.[9] She was also voted ‘India’s Greatest Actress in 100 Years’ in a CNN-IBN national poll conducted in 2013 on the occasion of the centenary of Indian cinema.[15]

Sridevi made her debut as a child in the 1967 Tamil film Kandhan Karunai at the age of four,[16] and started her acting career in lead roles as a child in M. A. Thirumugam’s 1969 mythological Tamil film Thunaivan. She continued to act as a child artist in Tamil, Telugu, Malayalam and Kannada films. She made her Hindi film debut at the age of nine in Rani Mera Naam (1972). Her first role as a teen-adult came in 1976 at age 13, when she was cast in the Tamil film Moondru Mudichu. She quickly established herself as one of the prominent and leading female stars of South Indian Cinema, with roles in 16 Vayathinile (1977), Thulavarsham (1976), Angeekaaram (1977), Sigappu Rojakkal (1978), Padaharella Vayasu (1978), Vetagaadu (1979), Varumayin Niram Sivappu (1980), Meendum Kokila (1981), Premabhishekam (1981), Vazhvey Maayam (1982), Moondram Pirai (1982), Aakhari Poratam (1988), Jagadeka Veerudu Athiloka Sundari (1990) and Kshana Kshanam (1991).

Following a notable appearance in the romantic drama Julie (1975), Sridevi’s first starring role in Hindi cinema came with the drama film Solva Sawan (1979), and she received wider recognition for the action film Himmatwala (1983). She established herself in the industry with a string of successful films, including Mawaali (1983), Justice Chaudhury (1983), Tohfa (1984), Naya Kadam (1984), Maqsad (1984), Masterji (1985), Karma (1986), Nazrana (1987), Watan Ke Rakhwale (1987), Mr. India (1987), Waqt Ki Awaz (1988) and Chandni (1989). She received widespread praise for her performances in films, including Sadma (1983), Nagina (1986), ChaalBaaz (1989), Lamhe (1991), Khuda Gawah (1992), Gumrah (1993), Laadla (1994), and Judaai (1997). Following the role of the titular protagonist in the television sitcom Malini Iyer (2004–2005), Sridevi returned to film acting with the highly successful comedy-drama English Vinglish (2012) and then starred in the Tamil language fantasy film Puli (2015), which marked her final film in South Indian Cinema. Sridevi then starred in her 300th and final film role in the psychological thriller Mom (2017). She earned widespread critical acclaim for her performances in both films, and for the latter was posthumously awarded the National Film Award for Best Actress.

On 24 February 2018, she was found dead of an accidental drowning in her guest room at the Jumeirah Emirates Towers Hotel, in DubaiUnited Arab Emirates.[17] News of her death featured prominently in Indian and international media. She was married to film producer Boney Kapoor, with whom she had two children, including actress Janhvi Kapoor.

Life and career[edit]

1963–1975: early years and work[edit]

Sridevi was born at Meenampatti village[18] near Sivakasi of present-day Tamil Nadu, India[19] on 13 August 1963 to Ayyapan and Rajeswari.[20][21][22] Her father was a lawyer from SivakasiTamil Nadu while her mother was from TirupatiAndhra Pradesh.[23][24][25] Sridevi’s mother tongue was Telugu, and she was fluent in Tamil.[26][27] She has a sister and two step-brothers.[28]

“I lost out on going to school and college life, but I got into the film industry and worked without a gap – from child actor, I went straight to heroine. There was no time to think and I was grateful for it.

— Sridevi, The New Indian Express, 2013[29]

Sridevi started her career as a child actor at the age of four in the Tamil movie Kandhan Karunai in 1967.[30] Subsequently, she played the role of young Muruga in Thunaivan.[31] Sridevi made her debut in Telugu cinema as a child artist with the 1970 film Maa Nanna Nirdoshi.[citation needed] Baby Sridevi’s performance in Poompatta (1971) in Malayalam won her the Kerala State Film Award for Best Child Artist.[32] Kandhan Karunai (1967), Nam Naadu (1969), Prarthanai (1970), Babu (1971), Badi Panthulu (1972), Bala Bharatam (1972), Vasantha Maaligai (1972) and Bhakta Kumbara (1974) are the most notable films of her career as a child artist.[32] In 1972, Sridevi debuted as a child artist in Bollywood with Rani Mera Naam directed by K. S. R. Das.[33] She also appeared in the film Julie, where she played the younger sister to the protagonist Lakshmi.[32] She acted with Jayalalitha in ThirumangalyamKandan Karunai and Adi Parashakti.[34]

1976–1982: leading roles and success in South India[edit]

In 1976, Sridevi landed her first leading role in the Tamil film Moondru Mudichu directed by K. Balachander.[35] She followed it with a number of films with Kamal Haasan and Rajinikanth. Sridevi’s first release of 1977 was Gaayathri, followed by Kavikkuyil and 16 Vayathinile, where she played the role of a young girl who is caught between her 2 lovers.[36] She also starred in the film’s Telugu remake Padaharella Vayasu in 1978.[37] Her subsequent notable films included Bharathi Raja‘s Sigappu RojakkalS. P. Muthuraman‘s PriyaKarthika DeepamJohnnyVarumayin Niram Sivappu and Aakali Rajyam.[38] She acted with N. T. Rama Rao in VetagaaduSardar Papa RayuduBobbili PuliJustice Chowdhary and Aatagadu.[37] She acted alongside Sivaji Ganesan in SandhippuKavari Maan and the Sri Lanka-filmed coproduction Pilot Premnath.[39]

Sridevi debuted as child artist in Kannada with Bhakta Kumbara (1974) directed by Hunsur Krishnamurthy.[40] Her other films as a child artist in Kannada included Bala Bharatam and Yashoda Krishna.[40] She was also a part of Hennu Samsarada Kannu (1975), directed by A.V. Sheshagiri Rao. Sridevi also acted as lead opposite Ambareesh in Priya (1978), produced by S. P. Muthuraman.[40] She entered Malayalam films as a child actor with Kumara Sambhavam in 1969,[41] followed by I. V. Sasi‘s Abhinandanam. Her notable Malayalam films as the lead heroine were Thulavarsham, directed by N. Sankaran Nair in 1976, and M. Masthan’s Kuttavum Shikshayum, a remake of the Tamil film Pennai Nambungal with Kamal Haasan starring opposite her.[42]

She next appeared in the Malayalam releases like Aa NimishamAngeekaaram and Satyavan Savithri directed by P.G. Viswambharan.[42] In 1981, she starred in the Tamil film Meendum Kokila which won her the Filmfare Award for Best Actress – Tamil.[43] In 1982, Sridevi starred in Moondram Pirai playing a woman suffering from retrograde amnesia and went on to win the Tamil Nadu State Film Award for Best Actress.[44] She was paired with Kamal Haasan in 27 films across languages.[45]

Sridevi’s notable films in Telugu include Konda Veeti SimhamKshana KshanamVetagaaduSardar Paparayudu and Bobbili Puli.[37] With Akkineni Nageswara Rao, she appeared in movies such as Muddula KodukuPremabhishekhamBangaru Kanuka and Prema Kanuka as well as with Krishna in Kanchu KagadaKalavari SamsaramAdavi SimhaluKrishnavatharamBurripalem BulloduVajrayudhamGharana DongaKirayi KotigaduPachani KapuramMakutam Leni MaharajuRamarajyamlo BheemarajuJayam manadeSamajaniki sawalMama Allulla SawalRam Robert Rahim and Khaidi Rudrayya.[37] She acted with Chiranjeevi in Jagadeka Veerudu Athiloka SundariS. P. Parasuram.[37] Her performance in the 1992 Ram Gopal Varma directed Kshana Kshanam opposite Venkatesh, won her the Filmfare Award for Best Actress – Telugu and the Nandi Award for Best Actress.[46] She acted in highest number of Telugu movies with Telugu superstar Krishna.

1983–1986: Hindi film debut and success[edit]

Sridevi made her debut as a heroine in Hindi films in Solva Sawan in 1979.[47] 4 years later, she was signed to star opposite Jeetendra in Himmatwala (remake of Telugu film Ooruki Monagadu (1981)). The film released in 1983, and was one of the highest-grossing Hindi films of the year.[48] It established Sridevi in Bollywood.[citation needed] Her dance number “Nainon Mein Sapna” became a rage with Rediff stating that “the water pots may have dominated most frames in ‘Nainon Mein Sapna’, but it was Sridevi’s bejewelled outfits and headgears that stole the show”.[49] She followed with Tohfa, which was the highest-grossing Hindi film of 1984.[50] The film established Sridevi as one of the leading actresses of Bollywood,[51] with Filmfare magazine declaring her “Unquestionably #1” on their cover.[52]

The pair of Jeetendra-Sridevi did 16 films together of which Himmatwala (1983), Jaani Dost (1983), Justice Chaudhry (1983), Mawaali (1983), Akalmand (1984), Tohfa (1984), Balidaan (1985), Aulad (1987), Suhaagan (1986), Ghar Sansar (1986), Dharm Adhikari (1986), Sone Pe Suhaaga (1988) were successful, and Aag Aur Shola (1986), Himmat Aur Mehanat (1987), Sarfarosh (1985) were flops.[53][54]

However, it was Sadma (1983) which brought Sridevi widespread critical acclaim.[citation needed] A remake of her Tamil film Moondram PiraiSadma is included in iDiva‘s list of ’10 Must Watch Movies That Weren’t Blockbusters’.[55] Sridevi’s performance as a child-woman suffering from amnesia was called by Indian Express “a milestone in her illustrious career”.[56] Sridevi also featured in the Mid-Day‘s list of ‘Challenging Roles played by Bollywood Actors’ describing her act in the film as “her best performance ever”.[57] In 2012, Adil Hussain, Sridevi’s co-star in English Vinglish revealed that he became a fan of the actress after watching her in Sadma.[58] The Sridevi-Kamal Hassan pair also appeared on the CNN-IBN 2012 list of ‘Greatest Romantic Couples on Celluloid’.[59] The film earned Sridevi her first Filmfare nomination for Best Actress.

She also acted with Akkineni Nageswara Rao‘s son Nagarjuna in Aakhari Porattam (1988), Khuda Gawah (1992) and Govinda Govinda (1993). She has also played the female lead to both Dharmendra and his son Sunny Deol.

Sridevi had successful pairing with Rajesh Khanna in films such as Naya Kadam (1984), Maqsad (1984), Masterji (1985) and Nazrana (1987). In 1986, came the snake fantasy Nagina which saw Sridevi play a shape-shifting woman. The film turned out to be the second highest-grossing film of the year,[60] with Box Office India stating that Sridevi remained “the undisputed #1”.[51] It was also named one of the best snake fantasy films by Yahoo.[61] Times of India ranked Nagina as one of the ‘Top 10 Snake Films of Hindi Cinema’.[62] Sridevi’s climax dance number “Main Teri Dushman” also remains one of the best snake dances in Bollywood,[63] with Desi Hits calling it “one of Sridevi’s most iconic dance numbers… that still gives fans goose bumps”[64] and iDiva describing it as “the stuff of movie legends”.[65] Besides Nagina, 1986 also saw Sridevi giving box-office hits in Subhash Ghai‘s multi-starrer Karma and Feroz Khan‘s Janbaaz. According to CNN-IBN‘s Bollywood Blockbusters, “Sridevi’s popularity grew so much that despite having a guest appearance in Janbaaz, she completely overshadowed the film’s lead heroine Dimple Kapadia.”[66]

1987–1991: superstardom[edit]

Sridevi followed the success of Nagina by playing a goofy crime journalist in the science fiction film Mr. India (1987) opposite Anil Kapoor, which was described by Rediff as “one of the most iconic films of its time”.[67] Directed by Shekhar Kapur, it became one of the highest grossing hits of the year and also found a place in Hindustan Times‘ list of ‘Top 10 Patriotic Films of Hindi Cinema’.[68][69] While the trade famously joked that the film should have been named Ms. India,[citation needed] Rediff also stated that “Sridevi was a complete show-stealer in the film”.[67] Sridevi’s imitation of Charlie Chaplin in the film was described by The Times of India as “the most hilarious act she has ever done”.[70] Rediff also featured Sridevi in its list of ‘Super 6 Comic Heroines’ stating that “her mobile face expressions could give Jim Carrey sleepless nights” and that “her biggest plus point is her ability to be completely uninhibited in front of the camera”.[71]

The dance number ”Hawaa Hawaai”, cited by The Times of India as “one of the unforgettable numbers of Sridevi”,[72] also became a popular nickname for the actress.[73] Besides comedy, Sridevi featured in the video for the song ”Kaate Nahin Kat Te”; Filmfare described Sridevi as “truly a goddess in a blue sari”.[74][75] Rediff also featured the song in its list of ‘Top 25 Sari Moments’ praising Sridevi’s “ability to look erotic even when she’s covered from head-to-toe”.[76] For Mr. India, Sridevi commanded ₹1.1 million, making her the highest paid Indian actress.[77] Box Office India states that with the success of Mr. India, Sridevi “continued her domination” over her contemporaries Jaya Prada and Meenakshi Sheshadri.[51]

1989 saw the release of the Yash Chopra‘s romantic musical saga Chandni, with Sridevi playing the title role. The film emerged as one of the biggest blockbusters of 1989.[citation needed] Cited by The Times of India as “one of the most watched films of Indian cinema”,[78] the film also reaffirmed Sridevi’s position as the top female star of the 1980s.[79][80] She was also paid ₹1.5 million for the lead role.[81] While she topped the Hindustan Times‘ list of Yash Chopra’s ‘Top 5 Heroines’,[82] CNN-IBN also ranked her first on a similar list, saying “Yash Chopra immortalized Sridevi as the perfect Chandni”.[83] India Today and NDTV also included her in such lists, stating that the film established Sridevi “as the nation’s sweetheart”.[84][85][86] The Tribune wrote: “Leena Daru scored a winner again when she created the ‘Chandni Look’ for Sridevi. Every street corner sold the salwar-kameez and dupatta that gave the heroine a refreshingly understated look, rarely seen on the Indian screen”,[87] Sridevi’s dance number “Mere Haathon Mein Nau Nau Choodiyaan” proved also popular with audiences,[88] and she also lent her voice to the film’s popular title-track.[89]

The same year, Sridevi also starred in the slapstick comedy ChaalBaaz, which had her play a double role of twin sisters separated at birth. Filmfare ranked her performance #4 in its list of ’80 Iconic Performances of Hindi Cinema’, stating that “Sridevi’s penchant for giggles and her ability to look distinctly tearful when required polishes these performances to perfection. Hell, she made Sunny Deol and Rajinikanth look like sidekicks in the film”.[90] The Times of India article ‘Bollywood’s Hit Double Roles’ wrote, “Sridevi’s performance had rocked the box office”.[91] Rediff featured the film in its countdown of “25 Best Double Roles in Bollywood” saying “What you don’t realise until you have seen Chaalbaaz is just how incredible Sridevi is at depicting both ends of the spectrum”,[92] and that the film “cemented her position as an actress with a killer comic timing”.[67] Speaking to The Indian Express about Sridevi’s act in ChaalBaaz, the director Pankaj Parashar said “She proved her range with the movie and after that she got lots of offers which saw her in a double role”.[93] Her slapstick rain dance “Na Jaane Kahaan Se Aayi Hai” became successful with The Times of India describing it as “a Sridevi classic where she simply looked wow with her chirpy expressions and rain drops kissing her cheeks.”[94] Sridevi garnered Best Actress nominations at Filmfare for both Chandni and ChaalBaaz in 1989, winning for the latter.

Sridevi with actress Madhuri Dixit in 2012

Chopra then cast Sridevi in his 1991 intergenerational musical romantic drama LamheThe Times of India included it in its list of ‘Top 10 Films of Yash Chopra’ describing it as a tale of “love transcending the boundaries of time and space”[95] while Rediff called it “Quite easily one of his most definitive films, Chopra surpassed his own findings of romance with the insightful, lovely Lamhe.[96] Sridevi played both the roles of mother and daughter in what iDiva described as “another double role but it was unlike any played before.”[65] Hailed by Rediff as “one of the most remarkable films of her career… often considered a film way ahead of its time”,[67][97] Sridevi’s folk dance number ‘Morni Baga Ma’ also became a rage and was placed among the ‘Top 5 Songs’ of Yash Chopra by Hindustan Times.[82] Lamhe was an underwhelming success at the box-office, but received widespread critical acclaim and has become a cult classic over the years.[55][98] Talking about the film, critic Rachel Dwyer wrote in her biography of the film-maker “Chopra’s own favourite film, Lamhe (Moments (1991)), divided the audience on a class basis: it was hugely popular with metropolitan elites and the overseas market, which allowed it to break even, but it had a poor box-office response (largely lower-class, especially the repeat audience) because of its supposed incest theme”.[99] The Hindu reported that “With shades of incest, Lamhe caused more than a flutter and remained the talk of the town”,[100] while Sridevi herself admitted in an interview with Rajeev Masand that she found the subject “too bold”.[101] Though the film flopped at the box-office, with Rediff describing its failure as “one of those bizarre, unexplained moments of cinema”,[96] Lamhe picked up 5 Filmfare trophies including Best Film and a second Best Actress trophy for Sridevi. Her popular Rajasthani costumes in the film also won designer Neeta Lulla her first National Film Award for Best Costume Design.[102]

1992–1997: continued success[edit]

In 1992, Sridevi starred in the epic drama Khuda Gawah opposite Amitabh Bachchan. The actress played a double role again as an Afghan warrior Benazir and her daughter Mehndi. Shot mostly in Mazar-i-Sharif, Afghanistan,[103] it did good business with BBC reporting that “it ran to packed houses for 10 weeks in Kabul“. Khuda Gawah still remains popular in Afghanistan and Rediff reported that the film is “in great demand after the reopening of cinema halls in the country” in 2001.[104] For Khuda Gawah, Sridevi earned ₹2.5 million for the role.[105] At Filmfare, the film picked up the Best Director trophy, while Sridevi earned a nomination for Best Actress. During the production of Jurassic Park in 1992–93, acclaimed Hollywood director and producer Steven Spielberg approached Sridevi for a small role in the film. However, Sridevi, after evaluating the stature of the role, refused the offer. She was the highest-paid actress in India from 1985 to 1993.[failed verification][106]

Sridevi’s big-budget 1993 release Roop Ki Rani Choron Ka Raja was one of India’s most expensive films ever made.[107] Though the film failed at the box office, Sridevi was appreciated with Times of India calling her disguise in a comedy scene “the best ever South Indian role played by any actress”.[108] She next starred in the 1993 thriller Gumrah, opposite Sanjay Dutt. Directed by Mahesh Bhatt, the actress played a singer falsely accused of drugs smuggling in Hong KongBollyspice stated in its ‘Sridevi Retrospective’ that “Despite great performances from the rest of the cast, Gumrah was really Sridevi’s film. She managed to exemplify female emotion and robustness to a great degree that you remember the film largely for her significant contribution towards it,”[109] Her performance earned her another nomination for Best Actress at Filmfare.

In 1994, Sridevi teamed up with Anil Kapoor again in Laadla playing business tycoon Sheetal Jaitley. The character, described by Times of India as “rude, dominant and very competitive”[108] brought her yet another Best Actress nomination at Filmfare. She acted in her comeback film in Malayalam in 1996 – Bharathan‘s Devaraagam, a love story in which she starred opposite Aravind Swamy.

The last major film Sridevi starred in before she took a break from the industry was the romantic drama Judaai, released in 1997. Along with Anil Kapoor and Urmila Matondkar, the actress played a greedy housewife going to extreme lengths for money. Talking about her swan-song, critic Subhash K. Jha wrote that Sridevi “left us with the most stunning hurrah in Judaai. A terrible film that I’ve watched countless times to see her play the money-minded harridan who ‘sells’ her husband to Urmila Matondkar. Who but Sridevi could carry of such an outrageous role with such enthusiastic élan?!”[110] while Bollyspice stated that “She used her polished acting skills to illustrate her character’s greed and individualism at such a grotesque level.”[67] Judaai earned Sridevi her eighth Best Actress nomination at Filmfare. In 1996, Sridevi married Boney Kapoor of the famed Bollywood royalty, the Kapoor family. During the years 1996–97, her mother was suffering from brain cancer-induced complications. After her mother’s death in 1997, Sridevi went on a hiatus from the film industry.[citation needed]

2004–2018: comeback, television debut and final roles[edit]

Sridevi with Ajith Kumar on the sets of film English Vinglish in 2012

After a 6-year hiatus, Sridevi briefly returned to the small screen in the Sahara sitcom Malini Iyer (2004–2005). She also appeared on Jeena Isi Ka Naam Hai (2004) and as a judge in the TV show Kaboom (2005).[111] She performed a medley of some of her musical numbers at the 52nd Filmfare Awards in 2007. She was also a member of the board of directors at the Asian Academy of Film & Television.[112]

On 19 September 2009, Sridevi appeared on the Sony TV show 10 Ka Dum. On 13 May 2012, Sridevi appeared on the Star Plus talk-show Satyamev Jayate.

Sridevi had also developed a passion for painting. In March 2010, her paintings were sold by an international art auction house with the money raised being donated.[113]

Sridevi at the premiere of English Vinglish in 2012

After an 15-year absence from film, Sridevi starred in English Vinglish (2012), a comedy-drama helmed by debutante director Gauri Shinde.[114] In the film, she played Shashi Godbole, a housewife who enrolls in an English-speaking course after her husband and daughter’s mocking of her English skills. The film and Sridevi’s performance received widespread critical acclaim. The Times of India called it “easily one of the best films of 2012!” and Sridevi’s performance “a masterclass for actors.”[115] Raja Sen of Rediff found the film “a winner all the way […] Sridevi excels in fleshing out her character”,[116] and critic Subhash K. Jha said Sridevi “makes the contemporary actresses, even the coolest ones, look like jokes… If you watch only 2 films every year make sure you see English Vinglish twice!”[117] Rajeev Masand of CNN-IBN wrote Sridevi delivers “a performance that is nothing short of perfect […] It’s warm and fuzzy, and leaves you with a big smile on your face.”[118] “Sridevi doesn’t miss a beat. Her performance is a triumph!”, added the critic Anupama Chopra.[119] Komal Nahta said she “makes the best comeback in Bollywood history and delivers a landmark performance.”[120]

With the high critical acclaim and massive commercial success of English Vinglish, Sridevi became the only actress in Bollywood to make a successful comeback as a leading lady after marriage and a long hiatus.[121][122] Gauri Shinde featured her in the Financial Times 2012 list of ’25 Indians To Watch’.[123] She topped Rediff.com‘s annual listing of the “Bollywood’s Best Actresses” in 2012; the website wrote English Vinglish “is a simple film where things are credible, never melodramatic” and Sridevi “always judges the tone right. It’s the sort of performance younger actresses should learn from.”[124] Sridevi was declared the most-admired Bollywood actress of 2012 in a mobile survey conducted by Vuclip, the world’s largest mobile research company.[125] She was nominated for several awards, including her ninth nomination for Best Actress at Filmfare.[126] Following an appearance during the song “Apna Bombay Talkies” in the film Bombay Talkies (2013),[127] Sridevi starred in the Tamil fantasy action adventure film Puli (2015),[128] which became her last Tamil film before her death in 2018.[129]

Sridevi at the HT Style Awards in January 2018

Sridevi was next seen in her home production titled Mom (2017), which marked her 300th film.[130] In the psychological thriller film, she played a mother who sets out to avenge the rape of her daughter. Sridevi said that as a mother and an artiste, she empathized with her character’s rage, and found it hard to be in a normal state during the filming.[131] Mom was released on 7 July 2017 to highly positive reviews, with critics widely appreciating Sridevi’s performance.[132] The Times of India and The Indian Express added Sridevi “demonstrates why she is the high-priestess of Indian cinema” and that she “needs only a twitch or a glance to prove that she is a powerhouse and there are several scenes she lifts by just being there.”[133][134] For her performance, Sridevi received the National Film Award for Best Actress and earned nominations for Best Actress and Best Actress (Critics) at Filmfare and the Screen Award for Best Actress.[135] At the time of her death, Sridevi was not shooting for any upcoming films and her last on-screen appearance was in Aanand L. Rai‘s film Zero (2018) in a cameo.[136] Sridevi had signed the 2019 period romantic drama Kalank, produced by Karan Johar; however, due to her demise she was replaced by Madhuri Dixit.[137] Another film she had signed, was to play a cameo role in the Malayalam film Sree Sree Devaraagam, a sequel to Sridevi’s own 1996 film Devaraagam, was subsequently shelved after her death in 2018.[138]

Personal life[edit]

Sridevi was always accompanied by her mother Rajeswari or by her sister Srilatha to the film sets during shooting of her films between 1972 and 1994.[139] Sanjay Ramasamy is married to her sister Srilatha since 1989.[140]

Sridevi campaigned for her father when he contested the Sivakasi constituency in 1989 assembly elections, but eventually lost in the elections.[18] Her father died in 1990 of heart attack, while she was shooting for Lamhe.[18][141] Her mother died in 1996,[18] as a result of the complications suffered from an operation that she underwent in 1995 on a brain tumor at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center in New York. The neurosurgeon operated on the wrong side of her brain destroying her vital tissues of vision and recent memory. This was widely reported in US media at that time which then led to a successful court battle and prompted then President Bill Clinton’s proposal of a program for hospitals to disclose their medical malpractice[citation needed] and errors.[142][143][144]

Sridevi with her husband Boney Kapoor at Esha Deol‘s wedding reception in 2011

Sridevi was extremely discreet about her privacy and rarely gave interviews or discussed her private life in them. [7] In 1996, she married producer Boney Kapoor. The couple had two daughters, Janhvi (born. 1997), who is herself an actress, and Khushi (born. 2000).[145][146]

Despite being known for her portrayals of a strong, vivacious and exuberant woman on-screen, Sridevi was an extremely introverted and reserved person off-screen. CNN-IBN correspondent Rajeev Masand says; “I have never known anyone who was so painfully shy, so quiet off-screen, who just transformed into a force of nature when the cameras came on. She was an interviewer’s nightmare, but the movie-buff’s dream”.[147] Commenting on her reserved nature, Firstpost says; “Behind the glamorous heroine with twinkling, magical eyes and a stunning face, was an inherently shy woman, often mistaken as arrogant. The truth is she was shy. Having begun to act when she was just 4, she did not complete formal education or get much of a chance to interact with kids of her own age. Consequently, she developed a strong dislike for crowds and noise.”[148]

Death and funeral[edit]

On 20 February 2018, Sridevi and her youngest daughter Khushi had flown to Al Jazirah Al Hamra in Ras Al Khaimah, United Arab Emirates, to attend the wedding of her nephew Mohit Marwah. She decided to spend a couple of days in Dubai to shop for her eldest daughter Janhvi’s 21st birthday, after the wedding.[149][150] Her husband Boney Kapoor was not present with them on the wedding day as he had to attend a meeting in Lucknow on 22 February. However he had already planned a surprise visit to his wife, with whom he spoke on the morning of 24 February, when she told him that “Papa (that’s how Sridevi addressed Boney), I’m missing you.”[151] According to Boney, he took a 15:30 flight to Dubai and reached Jumeirah Emirates Towers Hotel around 18:20 (Dubai time) in Room 2201 where Sridevi was staying. She and Boney briefly met and chatted for 30 minutes or so. Afterwards, they decided to have dinner.[152] Sridevi went to bathe and to get dressed for dinner, while Boney waited in the living room. After 15–20 minutes, around 19:00, he called out to her as they were getting late but was unable to get a response.[153]

Sridevi was pronounced dead on 24 February 2018 at 19:00 GMT in her hotel room where her husband had found her.[4][17][154] At first, it was announced by her brother in-law Sanjay Kapoor to the Indian media that the cause of death was a cardiac arrest, but the investigation to her death began early Sunday morning around 2:30, and the case was transferred to Dubai Public Prosecution by Dubai Police, where General Department of Forensic Evidence, Dubai revealed that the cause of death was “accidental drowning“.[155][156][157][158][159] The toxicology report later also revealed that traces of alcohol were found in her body, and water was found in her lungs.[160][161][162]

After rumours that news of her death was an Internet hoax, her brother-in-law, Sanjay Kapoor, confirmed that she really had died.[163][164][165] Her fans, co-stars and other Bollywood stars posted condolences on Twitter to mourn the death.[166][167][168][169] After a few days of police investigation, on 27 February, Sridevi’s case was closed, and on the night of that day, her body was flown back to Mumbai, India. Ashraf Thamarassery, helped bring back her body to India[170][171] by her husband and her stepson, Arjun Kapoor, on a private jet belonging to Anil Ambani.[172] Her funeral took place on 28 February, at the Vile Parle Seva Samaj Crematorium in Mumbai. The final rites were performed by her husband Boney Kapoor.[173][174] Sridevi was cremated with state honours and also received a gun salute at her funeral.[175] Her pyre was lit by her husband.[176] On 3 March, Sridevi’s ashes were flown into Tamil Nadu via Chennai by her husband and her two daughters Janhvi Kapoor and Khushi Kapoor and later taken to and immersed in the sea off the coast of Rameswaram.[177][178]

Tributes and reactions[edit]

The film industry, friends, and fans responded to her death through social and other media outlets. Her husband, Boney Kapoor, wrote: “To the world, she was their Chandni, the actor par excellence, their Sridevi, but to me, she was my love, my friend, mother to our girls, my partner. To our daughters, she was their everything, their life. She was the axis around which our family ran.”[179] The Prime Minister of India, Narendra Modi lamented the death of Sridevi. On social media, he stated: “Saddened by the untimely demise of noted actor Sridevi. She was a veteran of the film industry, whose long career included diverse roles and memorable performances. My thoughts are with her family and admirers in this hour of grief. May her soul rest in peace.”[180] President Ram Nath Kovind wrote: “Shocked to hear of passing of movie star Sridevi. She has left millions of fans heartbroken. Her performances in films such as Moondram PiraiLamhe and English Vinglish remain an inspiration for other actors. My condolences to her family and close associates.”[181]

Many from the film community and Sridevi’s close relatives paid homage to her at Celebration Sports Club in Lokhandwala and at her funeral.[182][183][184] Thousands of fans took to streets to pay their respects. Police had to resort to lathi-charge to control the fans who gathered for the procession from Celebration Sports Complex to the crematorium. The crowd was said to number more than 7,000.[185][186]

Sridevi’s funeral is estimated to have attracted the fourth-highest number of mourners, ranking below the three previous biggest funeral processions of non-political film personalities Mohammed RafiKishore Kumar and Rajesh Khanna in India from the Hindi film industry.[187]

Legacy and influence[edit]

Sridevi is regarded as one of the greatest female stars of Indian cinema.[188][189][190][191] Highly regarded for her range as an actor, critics have commended, particularly her comedic abilities[71] and her skills as a dancer.[192] During the 1980s, Sridevi was the highest-earning woman in the Indian entertainment industry.[51] For her role in Mr. India (1987), she was paid a then-unprecedented ₹11 lakhs, making her the highest-paid Indian actress ever.[193] In a 2013 national poll conducted by CNN-IBN on the occasion of the centenary of Indian cinema, Sridevi was voted “India’s Greatest Actress in 100 Years”,[194][195] and she placed #10 in a UK poll, “100 Greatest Bollywood Stars”, in the same year.[196] In 2012, Sridevi was placed at No. 2 by NDTV in the listing of “The most popular Bollywood actresses of all time”.[197] Sridevi featured in Box Office India’s Top Actresses list from 1983 to 1993.[198]

An epitaph in Firstpost pointed out that Sridevi had been sufficiently important as an actor to be able to refuse parts in movies,[199] and The News Minute called her “a pathbreaker in many ways”.[200] The Guardian called her “the undisputed queen of Indian Cinema”.[7]

“If Sridevi had no other identity beyond the films that she did, the audiences probably have no concept of films in India without her. Irrespective of the era you were born in or the actors you liked, the cosmos of Hindi film fans is divided into two distinctive groups of those like Sridevi and the others. Unlike most other iconic stars that, in a way, took over from their predecessors, Sridevi never really replaced anyone and perhaps it is this aspect that makes her unique and peerless.”

Firstpost on the influence of Sridevi.[201] [202]

Film critic Sukanya Verma described Sridevi as “one-of-a-kind”. She wrote, “Sridevi’s biggest plus point is her ability to be completely uninhibited in front of the camera.”[203] Sridevi is cited by media publications as a fashion icon. Her taste in clothes was varied and ranged from stylish casual to opulently majestic. She made her debut as a fashion model in 2008. The actress modelled clothes for designers Priya and Chintan at the Lakme Fashion Week.[204] The next year, she displayed the work of jewelry designer Queenie Dhodhy at the HDIL India Couture Week.[205] She worked at Lakme Fashion Week again in 2010,[citation needed] and at Delhi Couture Week 2012, showing clothes designed by Sabyasachi Mukherjee.[206]

She has also appeared on the cover of several fashion magazines. In 2007, she was featured on the cover of Hi Blitz with the tagline “The Goddess Returns”.[207] In 2011, she featured on the cover of Marie Claire,[citation needed] and in 2012, she was on the cover of L’Officiel.[208] In 2013, Sridevi appeared on the cover of Vogue, which was mentioned in Hindustan Times,[209] The Times of India,[210] and India Today.[211]

Sridevi received the ‘Ultimate Diva’ award at the Ciroc Filmfare Glamour & Style Awards in 2015.[212][213]

Sridevi’s performances, acting style and technique have been influential and have inspired numerous actresses including Juhi ChawlaKarisma KapoorKajolRani MukerjiPreity ZintaAishwarya Rai BachchanKareena KapoorPriyanka ChopraKatrina KaifVidya BalanDeepika PadukoneAsinAlia BhattNayantharaKajal Aggarwal and Anushka Shetty, who have cited her as an inspiration.[citation needed] In a piece for Time magazine, Priyanka Chopra wrote, “Everyone wanted her and wanted to be like her. She could be childlike, grown-up, funny, serious, beguiling, sexy—she was the ultimate actor. […] She was my childhood, and one of the big reasons I became an actor.”[214]

In the Telugu biopic NTR: Kathanayakudu, Sridevi was portrayed by Rakul Preet Singh.[215]

In a highly exceptional move, the actress became one of the few people from the Indian entertainment industry to be accorded with full state honours usually reserved only for current and former prime ministers, union and state ministers.[216] Sridevi was included in 2018 In Memoriam section during the 90th Academy Awards ceremony.[217] On the occasion of Sridevi’s birthday on 13 August 2019, Madame Tussauds Singapore has announced that a wax statue would soon be dedicated to her.[218] The statue is a replica of Sridevi’s look in the iconic song, “Hawaa Hawaai” from Mr. India. Her daughters, Janhvi Kapoor and Khushi Kapoor were present at the ceremony accompanied by her husband, producer Boney Kapoor.[219]

In 2018, author and journalist Lalita Iyer wrote a biography; .[220] In 2019, author and screenwriter Satyarth Nayak wrote a biography of Sridevi.[221] The book, Sridevi: The Eternal Screen Goddess, was published by Penguin Random House. It received positive reviews in The Times of India[222] and The Hindu,[223] and was also reviewed in India Today,[224] The Week,[225] Mid-Day,[226] Vogue India,[227] and Firstpost.[228]

“The Heat Will Kill You First”: Rolling Stone’s Jeff Goodell on Life and Death on a Scorched Planet

746,059 views Jul 17, 2023 Latest ShowsThe world is in the grips of a dangerous heat wave that has sent temperatures skyrocketing to deadly levels throughout Asia, Europe and the Americas. Unless urgent action is taken to reduce carbon emissions, the United Nations says, Earth could pass a temperature threshold in the next decade when climate disasters are too extreme to adapt to. We speak with longtime climate journalist Jeff Goodell, author of the new book, _The Heat Will Kill You First: Life and Death on a Scorched Planet_, about how the climate crisis is raising temperatures, the toll such heat can have on the human body, and how “heat is the primary driver for this climate transformation we are undergoing right now,” fueling natural disasters such as floods, wildfires and more.

This is what Marcia Hines said in 2014

“That’s why I like men so much because it is hard to understand them and we’re not supposed to, that’s the attraction, part of the beauty and the appeal.”

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Marcia Hines divorcing husband number four with new single Amazing

MARCIA Hines is divorcing her fourth husband Dr Christopher Morrissey. “I think I must be unusual,” she says, promoting an album of originals.

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“I think I must be unusual” .... Singer Marcia Hines at the Blue Hotel, Woolloomooloo, Sy

“I think I must be unusual” …. Singer Marcia Hines at the Blue Hotel, Woolloomooloo, Sy

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IF anyone is more qualified to write songs about love won and love lost, it is Marcia Hines.

Just as the much-loved singer released Amazing, her first original single in 20 years on Friday, Marcia Hines revealed she has split from her fourth husband Dr Christopher Morrissey.

The face of Smooth TV was sanguine about the demise of her 10-year relationship with the brother of designer Peter.

“Life is interesting right now. I am divorcing my husband. Am I all right? I had to make a decision,” she said.

“Things weren’t sticking anymore, for me. When I make a decision about something like that, then I’m cool. No one is to blame because I don’t believe in that but it’s just what has to be.”

The 60-year-old entertainer said that maybe she isn’t destined for a relationship which lasts a lifetime

“When I do it for life, I’ll tell you,” she said.

“I don’t know what I am but I know I must be, not so much a difficult woman, but an unusual woman to have come here at 16 years old, to have brought up a child and kept the family together and worked in a career where you are absent quite a bit with my mother as the glue who kept things together.

“So I think I think I must be unusual.”

Her new single Amazing is the first taste of a new record to be released in April which explores the many faces of love and heartbreak.

She credits a chance meeting with Joni Mitchell in Los Angeles for confirming her decision to write her first album of original songs in two decades rather than explore another covers record.

Giving Marcia help and support ... Singer and songwriter Joni Mitchell.

Giving Marcia help and support … Singer and songwriter Joni Mitchell.

Actor and singer ... Russell Crowe in a scene from "Winter's Tale." (AP Photo/Warner Bros

Actor and singer … Russell Crowe in a scene from “Winter’s Tale.” (AP Photo/Warner Bros

“A dancer friend of mine Valentino told me someone wanted to meet me and it was Joni Mitchell. Then I caught my breath,” she said.

“We got to a house in Bel Air and there she is. Somehow Joni and I shuffled off to another room and we talked, with her encouraging me in the way that only another musician can.

“She played me her playlist of all the songs she would really dig if she was stranded on a desert island and told me I had to get mine together.

“I told her my ideas about what I wanted to do next and she told me to follow them.”

She has still got style and looks ... Singer Marcia Hines.

She has still got style and looks … Singer Marcia Hines.

First album of original songs in 20 years.

First album of original songs in 20 years.

Guests on the album include Diesel and Russell Crowe, who duets on a song which is a tribute to Nutbush City Limits.

Some of the songs were influenced by her “spying” on people.

“I always have much to say because I am a very emotional person. And I like to hear what other people have to say too so I became a bit of a spy and would sit in cafes to hear what people would say about their love affairs,” she said, laughing.

“Usually it ends up with women saying that men just don’t understand them.

“That’s why I like men so much because it is hard to understand them and we’re not supposed to, that’s the attraction, part of the beauty and the appeal.”

Hines’ former husbands in the 1980s and 1990s were French businessman Andre DeCarpentry, keyboard player Jamie McKinley, and businessman Ghassan Bayni.

“When I do it for life, I’ll tell you” ... Singer Marcia Hines at The Blue Hotel, Woolloo

“When I do it for life, I’ll tell you” … Singer Marcia Hines at The Blue Hotel, Woolloo

She just turned 70!!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marcia_Hines

Marcia Hines
AM
Hines in 2014
Background information
Birth nameMarcia Elaine Hines
Also known asShantee Renee
Monica Hindmarsh
BornJuly 20, 1953 (age 70)
BostonMassachusetts, U.S.A.
OriginBoston, U.S.A.
GenresPopdiscoR&Bjazzgospelfunk
Occupation(s)Singer, TV personality
Instrument(s)Vocals
Years active1967–present
LabelsWizardWarnerLiberationUniversal
Websitemarciahines.com.au

Marcia Elaine HinesAM (born July 20, 1953), is an American-Australian singer and TV personality.[1] Hines made her debut, at the age of 16, in the Australian production of the stage musical Hair[2][3] and followed with the role of Mary Magdalene in Jesus Christ Superstar.[2][4][5][6]

She achieved her greatest commercial successes as a recording artist during the late 1970s with several hit singles, including cover versions of “Fire and Rain“, “I Just Don’t Know What to Do with Myself“, “You” and “Something’s Missing (In My Life)“; and her Top Ten albums Marcia ShinesShining and Ladies and Gentlemen.[5][6] Hines was voted “Queen of Pop” by TV Week‘s readers for three consecutive years from 1976.[5][6]

Hines stopped recording in the early 1980s[7] until she returned with Right Here and Now in 1994,[6][8] the same year she became an Australian citizen.[2][9] She was the subject of the 2001 biography Diva: the life of Marcia Hines,[10] which coincided with the release of the compilation album Diva.[9] From 2003 to 2009 she was a judge on Australian Idol, and her elevated profile led to a renewed interest in her as a performer. Her 2006 album, Discotheque, peaked at number 6 on the Australian Recording Industry Association (ARIA) albums chart.[2][11] Hines was inducted into the ARIA Hall of Fame on July 18, 2007.[12][13][14]

Hines is the mother of singer Deni Hines, with whom she performed on the duet single “Stomp!” (2006).[11] Hines has sold 2.6 million albums and was the first Australian female artist to have a platinum-selling album, as well as the first female to have seven consecutive top 20 album releases.[15]

Early life[edit]

Hines was born in Boston, Massachusetts, to Jamaican parents,[6] Eugene and Esmeralda Hines.[9] Eugene died when Hines was six months old due to an operation to remove shrapnel from a war wound.[9][16] Former US Secretary of State Colin Powell was her cousin,[7][17] as is the performer Grace Jones.[18] She was raised with her older brother Dwight, by their mother and began singing as a nine-year-old in her church choir. By her teens she was performing with groups in her local area and briefly used the stage-name Shantee Renee.[9] At 14, Hines won a scholarship to the New England Conservatory of Music but left after three months.[2] A month after turning 16, Hines attended the Woodstock Festival.[18] In 1970, at age 16, Hines moved to Australia after landing a role in the Australian stage production Hair.[19]. . . .

Personal life[edit]

Hines has a daughter, Deni Hines, who was born in Australia on September 4, 1970. Hines had been performing in Hair since she was 16 years old.[3][41] Hines has been married four times: French businessman Andre DeCarpentry, keyboard player Jamie McKinley, businessman Ghassan Bayni, and, in April 2005, she married Christopher Morrissey, whom she divorced in 2014.[35]

Hines grew up with asthma, missing months of schooling as a result of life-threatening attacks,[42] and was diagnosed with diabetes after collapsing at her home in 1986.[21] Her elder brother Dwight’s death by suicide, in April 1981, devastated Hines, but her mother Esmeralda (Esme) helped her through their grief.[18] Esme relocated to Australia to live with Hines and Deni in the 1980s, and she died in May 2003.[9]

 I Don’t Know How To Love Him | 2023

1,133 views Jul 3, 2023Marcia Hines ‘I DON’T KNOW HOW TO LOVE HIM’ performed live as part of Vivid Sydney at St Andrew’s Cathedral Sydney. This much beloved song features on ‘Still Shining – ‘ – the stunning new album from Marcia Hines set for release through ABC Music on July 7th, and is available on pre-order now via this link: https://snd.click/stillshining We can’t wait to hear what you think! Let us know in the comments, and please share it far and wide. CREDITS: Marcia Hines – Lead Vocals Joe Accaria – Music Director Juanita Tippins – Choir Leader Produced by Sas Lyon Vision by Made In Katana Band – Stu Hunter (keys); Dan Maher (guitar); James Haselwood (bass) Principal Choir – Bek Jensen; Chris Luder ; Sefo Vaivao Local Choir – Mt Druitt Choir: Henry Faiumu; Jenelle Faiumu; Tina Faiumu; Hillamore Faiumu; Setaleki Mafi; Fuarosa Sagato THE GOSPEL ACCORDING TO MARCIA PRODUCERS Rix Management – Peter Rix; Sophie May Vivid Sydney – Gill Minervini; Julian Ramundi; Sarah Moore

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Alternatives to Remarriage in later life – A Reblog

About living apart together it says the following:

‘Widowers, tend to report that they have not repartnered because they are concerned about being undesirable partners due to older age and ill health.’

“Many older women are interested in companionship but may want to avoid long-term obligations and are hesitant to give up their new independence. However, an arrangement called Living Apart Together (LAT) offers an appealing alternative; it is a form of intimate ongoing companionship that allows each partner to maintain autonomy and independent households.”

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  1. catterel EditInteresting. I must say that I haven’t been averse to forming a new relationship – I simply haven’t me anyone that suits! And I certainly enjoy my independence. There would have o be compromises on both sides. I think the key question is, how lonely are you are and what are you prepared to sacrifice in order to have he companionship you crave.Reply
  2. auntyuta EditIn an intimate ongoing companionship each partner is to maintain autonomy and independent households, if it is based on LAT.
    So it should be quite different from a marriage relationship. Really no need to get married in old age, while still having some kind of companionship! Of course you have to be lucky to meet the right kind of partner for this kind of ongoing relationship. Reply
  3. doesitevenmatter3 EditInteresting! I think finding a good loving partner is difficult at any age. But, I definitely understand seniors wanting a good companion, affection, sharing adventures, etc. One day, years ago, I was visiting with my Mom and her friend Julie (Both widows in their mid to late 90’s…both had loved their husbands and missed them.)
    Julie said, “We don’t talk about men much anymore…we mostly talk about food and shopping.” I laughed.  Then she said, “We think older men just want an older woman in their life for one of two reasons…they want you as their nurse…or they want your purse…they hope you have money.”
    The two of them laughed, and I laughed with them. 
    (((HUGS))) Reply
  4. auntyutaEditI think, if they want a nurse, wouldn’t it be more likely that a younger fairly healthy woman could act as a nurse? And should they not be in a position then to at least pay for their own way?
    This is indeed laughable, that only these very needy old man are available! I would laugh it off too, not wanting myself to burden with such a man. I would like only a man who could give me some enjoyment and pleasure just by being good company. Reply
    1. auntyuta EditI have been thinking a bit about this dilemma, that maybe esspecially very elderly men and women might experience, I mean the dilemma of needing perhaps constant nursing care. Of course, this sort of thing can happen to anybody at any time. So, if one man or woman, or both, do need already constant nursing care, can they still look for sexual encounters with each other?
      If there is a mutual sexual attraction, why not?

Freedom

There’s still some freedom in my personal life, and this is good. So, I am determined to enjoy this bit of freedom as much as possible. I have the freedom to get up in the middle of the night and write something. Is this good? I bet it is good, it is more than good; it is what makes my life still worth living and enjoyable!

So, I am enjoying my life on this my very last leg. I try not to do anything that would make me unwell or injured, for above all I do not want to end up in a hospital again. Also, I try very hard not to end up in an age care home. The way they are run these days for the majority of people is a disgrace.

It may be vastly different, if you are super rich. But I happen to be not super rich. Still, I do have totally sufficient funds for a normal life. These funds of course cannot pay for all the extra care that I do need at this stage in my life. So I struggle and make do with as little care as possible. It gives me the feeling that I am still somwhat independent, which is good. I am on an age care package, which gives me every week three hours and 15 minutes home help plus a few extra funds when needed. All this is paid for by the government, so that I can stay at home and don’t need to go into an age care home. So far so good.

Am I strong enough to last like that into my nineties? We’ll see. In the meantime, my only aim is to liven it up as much as possible. This means, everything I do has to be somehow enjoyable. Why not? There is nothing wrong with enjoying what I am doing. I may sometimes take a few risks. But they are not stupid risks. I try avoiding stupid risks. I don’t think stupid risks would give me pleasure. I am usually capable to guide my feelings, even though I am very emotional. Most of the time my brain seems to work quite well to guide my feelings. I think it has always been this way. Of course with happy feelings sometimes may come very sad feelings. I am not complaining, without some sad feelings we wouldn’t know how good happy feelings are. One can’t always feel very sad, and one can’t always feel very happy either. But one can aim at enjoying life as much as possible. Yes, just looking at a flower can give me joy. Or going for a very, very slow walk in beautiful sunshine early in the morning: How good is that!

  1. freefall852Keep up the good cheer, Uta…you are a very beneficial example to us following behind!  Liked by you and 1 other person
  2. auntyuta This is very kind of you to say so, dear Joe. Yes, I try my best to keep up some good cheer. I think last night I was getting a bit of ‘Torschlußpanik’, thinking that it won’t be long and I’ll turn a horrible 90! So, I made myself get up in the middle of the night to do some writing, just to cheer me up! Yes, this bit of writing did cheer me up immensely. It made me realise, that being close to 90 is maybe not all that bad. I think I have to believe those people, who tell me, it can be good being 90. The best thing I can do is take one day at a time. Liked by 1 person

Discovery of Radioactive Fish Near Fukushima Reignites Concerns Over Plan to Dump Contaminated Wastewater

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As Tokyo Electric Power Company moves to release more than a million tons of treated radioactive wastewater from the Fukushima nuclear power plant, critics argue radioactive isotopes cannot be fully eliminated.

The plant operator, known as TEPCO, analyzed a black rockfish in May that was found to contain levels of radioactive cesium that were 180 times over Japan’s regulatory limit…

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