She needed life-saving surgery. A hospital gave her Panadol through a grate and sent her away

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By Louise MilliganNaomi Selvaratnam and Lauren Day

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Denise’s sister died just two months after being diagnosed with an easily-preventable condition.(Four Corners: Nick Wiggins)

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Denise Booth tends to her sister’s grave every evening before the sun goes down.

“We miss her,” Denise says quietly.

“Miss her ways. And her smiles and that.”

WARNING: Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander readers are advised that this article contains images of a person who has died, used with the permission of their family.

So many graves in Doomadgee cemetery belong to young people like Yvette “Betty” Booth.

Just two months before she died, the teenager was diagnosed with an illness that has all but disappeared in most of Australia.

Three teenage women smile in a selfie. An illustration of a rose sits to the side of the image.
Betty (centre) was just 18 years old when she died.(Supplied/Four Corners: Nick Wiggins)

Denise has the illness too. It’s called rheumatic heart disease (RHD).

Betty was supposed to get weekly check-ups and urgent surgery, but that never happened.

She visited Doomadgee Hospital’s emergency department 12 times in under two months.

On some of those occasions, she was given Panadol through a security grate and sent away.

Her family is heartbroken and angry.

A young woman looks to the side, a sad expression on her face. Her face is sweaty from the summer heat.
Denise Booth at her sister’s grave.(Four Corners: Louie Eroglu ACS)

“We are human beings, you know?” says Betty’s uncle, Martin Evans.

“We want to get the same treatment as the next person.

“What happened at that hospital — it’s just not right.”

Betty’s death is one of three in the space of a year uncovered by Four Corners in an investigation into health care in this remote town.

Diagnosis

When doctor Bo Remenyi visited Doomadgee in July 2019 to screen children for RHD, she recognised Betty Booth and her family right away.

Dr Remenyi started her medical career in the remote north-west Queensland town and the plight of RHD patients had inspired her to specialise in paediatric cardiology.

She had treated Betty as a baby 18 years earlier and even babysat her.

When she examined Betty, now aged 18, Dr Remenyi quickly realised Betty had severe RHD.

Dr Remenyi stands with her arms around Norma and Betty in a photo. Next to the photo is a drawing of a stethoscope.
Doctor Bo Remenyi (centre) with Betty and her mother Norma Mick.(Supplied/Four Corners: Nick Wiggins)

Betty needed urgent surgery to repair the valves in her heart.

Dr Remenyi’s team left detailed instructions for her care and multiple health bodies — including Doomadgee Hospital’s doctors and director of nursing — were emailed Betty’s referral to a cardiology service.

Despite this, no record of her illness was kept on Doomadgee Hospital’s file.

Betty was supposed to be reviewed weekly, but that never happened.

‘The shut-up pill’

Betty first went to the hospital four days after her diagnosis, at 11pm with a cough, fever and vomiting.

She was given Panadol and treatment for dehydration and sent home to return in daylight hours.

On that occasion, staff took her temperature and pulse, but that wouldn’t always be the case.

Dr Remenyi says it’s not unusual for patients who go to the hospital on weekends and after hours not to be properly assessed.

“The conversation takes place over a cage, without actually touching the patient or examining the patient or giving that real opportunity to discuss the symptoms,” she says.

Betty would go on to visit the emergency department 12 times, with symptoms including difficulty breathing, fever, an abnormally high heart rate, and coughing up blood.

But she was given paracetamol (and once, antibiotics) – often handed through the locked after-hours security window – and sent away.

A Doomadgee Hospital hours sign directing people to use a call bell when closed. Next to the image is a drawing of two pills.
Betty went to the hospital several times with symptoms like coughing up blood and difficulty breathing.(Four Corners: Louie Eroglu ACS, Nick Wiggins)

On some of these occasions, hospital staff did not carry out basic vital signs observations that are routine in other hospitals – taking temperature, pulse, oxygen saturations.

“How many times can you present, with the same symptoms, pressing symptoms, coughing up blood, shortness of breath, tachycardia, and each time the outcome is not different?” Dr Remenyi says.

She says Betty’s care represents “clearly, a failure of the health system”.

An independent review of Betty’s care would later say, “generally patients do not present in the middle of the night for no reason, and it is rare for them to present frequently at that time”.

Vicki Wade, director of lobby group RHD Australia, says the use of paracetamol in this way is disappointingly widespread in remote Aboriginal communities.

“We know that it’s not the right treatment, but unfortunately, Panadol’s easy to give out, so you know, people will get the Panadol and we’ll say, ‘oh, that’s the shut-up pill’,” she says.

Four Corners investigates how the health system has failed women like Betty, tonight on ABC TV and iview.

‘They are supposed to be professionals’

After multiple presentations to Doomadgee Hospital in August 2019, Betty went to Townsville, where her mother was having an operation.

Townsville Hospital was also aware of Betty’s diagnosis and while there was toing and froing between medical services and Betty to try to set a date for her surgery, it never happened.

When Betty returned to Doomadgee after three weeks, she fell desperately ill again.

Marilyn Haala, a relative who was staying at Betty’s house that weekend, noticed Betty’s face and neck were “all swollen”. Swelling can be a serious warning sign of heart failure.

“She was sick, she just kept coughing — she didn’t look good,” Ms Haala says.

“She was struggling to breathe.”

A woman looks ahead with a blank expression, next to her on a couch sits a man, also looking ahead.
Marilyn Haala encouraged Betty to go to the hospital.(Four Corners: Louie Eroglu ACS)

The family decided Betty should go to the hospital, but when Betty’s sister took her to the emergency department, her family says she was again sent home with Panadol.

“An 18-year-old girl should not be sent home with Panadol,” Mr Evans says.

“They are supposed to be the professionals, check her file for goodness sake.”

Weenie George, the mother of Betty’s best friend, says this practice was commonplace at the hospital.

“They don’t treat them and check them,” Ms George says.

“They just send them home. They don’t do their job at night.”

Monday, September 23

Weenie’s husband Terrence and daughter Shakaya both had rheumatic heart disease, so when Betty turned up to their house, they knew the signs of a very unwell patient.

“She was looking a bit puffy in the face. She was breathless talking to me and Terrence,” Weenie George says.

A woman sitting just outside a doorway, looks into the camera with a serious expression on her face.
Weenie George says it’s common at night for the hospital to send people home without checking them.(Four Corners: Louie Eroglu ACS)

Terrence George says when Betty sat down on their verandah, he said: “You look sick, Bubba, you better go to the hospital”.

That’s what Betty did. She never came home.

In the afternoon, a nurse recorded Betty had a fever and a fast and irregular heartbeat.

But critically, yet again, there was no alert on the hospital’s online system to show Betty had severe RHD and required urgent surgery.

By 4:45pm, Betty had been waiting for hours, seriously ill, and staff finally decided she should fly out, but she was categorised as “low dependency”, meaning staff had up to six hours to get her on a flight.

An hour later, a plane was ordered from Townsville, 850 kilometres away, instead of the closest big hospital, Mount Isa.

Two photos of Betty from social media, one with an animal ears filter on it. Next to the photos is a drawing of a plane.
Betty waited for hours before staff decided to fly her out of Doomadgee.(Supplied/Four Corners: Nick Wiggins)

Marilyn Haala and her husband Clennon Bob were pacing around outside the hospital, “stressing out”.

“I wanted to go in to see her,” Mr Bob says.

“No-one would let me go in, even the nurse or the doctors.”

Within an hour, Betty deteriorated badly.

By the time a Royal Flying Doctor Service plane finally landed at Doomadgee, Betty Booth had been dead for almost two hours.

“[The] doctor that was treating her, came out and gave us the bad news: Betty didn’t make it,” Mr Bob says, slowly shaking his head.

“It broke both of our hearts,” Ms Haala says, weeping.

She says it is still painful to talk about Betty, but she hopes it will help other young people in the Doomadgee community with RHD.

“Because what they did there, they just going to keep killing people,” Ms Haala says.

“They going to keep killing them. And get away with it.”

A long wait for answers

Just three months after diagnosing Betty, Dr Remenyi returned to Doomadgee for the teenager’s funeral.

“To see Betty, who was a young, enthusiastic, caring, compassionate young woman with a bright future – to see her in a coffin … devastating,” Dr Remenyi says.

“I felt angry that in 20 years, nothing had changed.

“I became a paediatric cardiologist because I wanted to stop young women, specifically, dying from rheumatic heart disease.

“When I diagnosed Betty with rheumatic heart disease, I felt really positive.

“I felt like I could change the trajectory of her life.

“Now I’m seeing her in a coffin … I felt responsible.”

A community protest followed Betty’s death. Locals were angry and demanded answers.

Doomadgee protest
Locals staged a protest outside the hospital in September 2019.(Supplied: Aiden Green/Four Corners: Nick Wiggins)

The local area health service promised an independent review into what went wrong, but the family heard nothing for almost two years.

In August 2021, shortly after Four Corners began making calls about this story, Betty’s mother Norma Mick suddenly heard from the local area health service, asking her to come for a meeting to discuss a report into Betty’s death.

Ms Mick was shocked to see the report was dated March 2020 – 17 months before.

In all that time, nobody at Doomadgee Hospital or in the health department had thought to share the report with the family.

It catalogued a series of failures that preceded Betty’s death.

Treated ‘like dogs’

The “Betty’s Story” report found Doomadgee Hospital had “clinical risk and poor governance”, low expectations for Aboriginal patients’ health, and an unwelcoming hospital environment.

“[It feels] like they treat us like animals,” Ms Haala says, angrily.

“It’s the truth.”

Other locals cited in the report said the hospital treated them “like dogs”.

A woman wearing glasses looks up, passed the camera, at a screen.
Dr Remenyi hoped Betty’s diagnosis would change her life.(Four Corners: Louie Eroglu ACS)

Dr Remenyi says there’s a division between health services and the community.

“It’s racism … one group of people thinking potentially that they are better than the other,” she says.

Pat Turner, who heads the National Aboriginal Community Controlled Health Organisation (NACCHO), the peak body in indigenous community health, says it’s inexcusable for a patient to be repeatedly turned away like Betty was.

“If I present to an emergency department and I’ve got serious symptoms, I don’t want to be handed Panadol through the grate.”

“I want a full triage and I want to have all the work done that any other Australian has a right to expect.

“The racism is absolutely out there, and it has to stop.”

A photo of two children playing in the street next to a public phone and a photo of two horses on a street next to a crashed car
RHD thrives in communities with poor housing and living conditions.(Four Corners: Louie Eroglu ACS, Nick Wiggins)

Despite the high incidence of RHD in Doomadgee for decades, the “Betty’s Story” report found staff at the hospital had “limited understanding of rheumatic heart disease”.

The disease, which had all but disappeared in white Australia by the 1990s, now almost exclusively affects Aboriginal Australians.

What is RHD?

  • It’s caused when repeated strep A infections in the throat or skin sores are not adequately treated, and they develop rheumatic fever
  • Getting rheumatic fever repeatedly damages the valves in the heart and leads to RHD, which can cause heart failure, stroke and death
  • It thrives in poverty – where poor housing and living conditions can allow the strep bug to spread

Rates of RHD have risen from 67 cases in 100,000 in 2014 to 81 cases in 100,000 in 2019.

But the incidence of RHD in Doomadgee’s children is far greater — 4,400 cases in 100,000.

That’s higher than sub-Saharan Africa.

“It is an appalling statistic in a country as capable and competent as Australia,” Pat Turner says.

“We stand back and watch children, time after time again, year after year, decade after decade, having still the same end result,” Dr Remenyi says, “Which is dying far too young.”

Within a year of Betty Booth’s death, two other young women with RHD died after seeking treatment in Doomadgee.

One of them was 17-year old Shakaya George, daughter of Weenie and Terrence George, the other was Shakaya’s aunt, Adele Sandy.

“They’re not helping us,” Ms Haala says of the hospital.

“They’re killing us.”

After being contacted by Four Corners, the Queensland coroner announced on Friday it would hold an inquest into the women’s deaths, including “the adequacy of the care and treatment received”.

Queensland Health Minister Yvette D’Ath told Four Corners in a statement that all three cases were under investigation by North West Hospital and Health Service.

“I would also expect any allegations about the standard of care delivered at Doomadgee Hospital to be investigated,” she said.

Follow the investigation into the deaths of these three women tonight on Four Corners on ABC TV and ABC iview.

Australia east coast floods 2022

NSW flood: Sydney residents in west and north-west evacuate as Warragamba Dam spill

NSW flood: a flooded street in Penrith in Sydney’s west. More severe weather is expected overnight and Thursday, with NSW authorities warning communities at risk to evacuate as Warragamba Dam spills.
NSW flood: a flooded street in Penrith in Sydney’s west. More severe weather is expected overnight and Thursday, with NSW authorities warning communities at risk to evacuate as Warragamba Dam spills. Photograph: Dan Himbrechts/EPA

Peter HannamWed 2 Mar 2022 21.17 AEDT

New South Wales authorities have warned communities at risk of major flooding in the Sydney region to evacuate or prepare to evacuate as the Hawkesbury, Nepean and Georges rivers continue to rise.

Warragamba Dam, Sydney’s main reservoir, was spilling at a rate in excess of 70 gigalitres a day on Wednesday after torrential rainfall over its catchment exceeded earlier predictions, according to a NSW government official.

The spill, which began at about 3am, was expected to peak on Thursday. The previous expectation of an upper range of the spill at 350GL a day has now been lifted to match or exceed the 440GL/day rate experienced during the March 2021 floods. That event caused widespread damage to areas to Sydney’s north and west.

“Major flooding is occurring in south-west Sydney exceeding March 2021 levels with major flood warnings in place. It’s raining, with some areas hit harder than others and more rain on its way. Keep a serious eye on the warnings and forecasts,” the NSW Bureau of Meteorology tweeted before 9pm.

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“This is our worst fear,” the NSW deputy premier, Paul Toole, said earlier on Wednesday evening. “It will get worse before it gets better.”

In a worst-case scenario, Warragamba’s spill rate could peak at 600GL/ day, Toole told a media conference. A potential evacuation could involve “quite a few hundred thousand people”, NSW State Emergency Service commissioner, Carlene York, said.

Ballina resident June Mount she decided to stay at her house throughout the flooding. Most of the New South Wales suburb had to be evacuated as flood waters covered the region.

Sydney Harbour holds roughly 500GL. More flood water, too, is entering the Hawkesbury-Nepean region from other tributaries that enter the flood plain below the dam.

There were also concerns Redbank Dam could fail, prompting the SES to direct people in some parts of North Richmond, north-west of Sydney, to evacuate.

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“We just recently issued an evacuation order for the area in North Richmond downstream of the Redbank Dam because it may fail,” York said. “I want all those residents to make sure they do evacuate from that area.”

Residents were told to evacuate in some areas of Agnes Banks, Bligh Park, Camden, Cattai, Chipping Norton, Georges Hall, Lansvale, Leets Vale, Milperra, Moorebank, Sackville, Warwick Farm and other suburbs.

Authorities also told thousands more residents who were affected by Sydney’s 2021 floods to be on standby to leave.

NSW Health told people isolating due to Covid they should still evacuate their home if threatened by rising flood waters.

“If you are told to evacuate, you must evacuate,” NSW acting chief health officer Dr Marianne Gale said. “An emergency evacuation is a valid reason to leave your home.”

The Bureau of Meteorology shifted its forecast for when Sydney’s heaviest falls may land, predicting 120mm to 150mm on Thursday, up from 50 to 70mm. Since 9am on Wednesday, the city had only collected about 10mm, although inland sites were much wetter, with about 84mm up to 5pm at Richmond.

The bureau has also issued a major flood warning for the Nepean and Hawkesbury rivers.

“Significant river level rises have been observed along the Nepean River where major flooding is possible from early Wednesday evening,” the BoM said.

“Along the Hawkesbury and Lower Nepean rivers major flooding is also possible from overnight Wednesday into Thursday at Penrith, North Richmond, Windsor and downstream based on forecast rainfall.”

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“We are going to be getting massive, like torrential rainfall,” Stephanie Heard, a spokesperson for the NSW SES, said.

“We want the community to start preparing for the potential for evacuation. We really need to make sure that the community listens and will follow our advice. Basically, it’s really quite a dangerous weather system that we’re seeing.”

There had already been 18 flood rescues in the Sydney region by Wednesday afternoon. Rainfall totals could reach 150mm to 200mm over the Hawkesbury region, Heard said.

While Sydney itself had been spared most of the heavy rain from the developing east coast low, inland areas including the Warragamba catchment had been receiving big falls.

Ben Domensino, a senior Weatherzone meteorologist, said the rain gauge at Warragamba had collected almost 100mm from 9am to 3pm. By comparison, Sydney’s Observatory Hill near the CBD had only about 30mm in the 30 hours to 3pm on Wednesday.

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“This system has continued to surprise as to the extent of the rainfall,” Domensino said, noting its evolution from a so-called “rain bomb” over south-east Queensland and northern NSW into a low pressure system near the NSW central coast.

“This system at the moment is causing much heavier rain on the ranges than it is near the coast. There’s likely to be some heavy rain near the coast especially as the low pressure system comes in overnight into Thursday morning.”

People who may need to be evacuated should prepare an emergency pack and gather pets, which evacuation centres will be able to accommodate, the SES’s Heard said. The kit should include key valuables but also Medicare and other ID. More details can be found here.

Not surprisingly given the spill from Warragamba, the dam is 100% full, WaterNSW said. The entire dam network is sitting at 99.2% and it’s likely they will all be spilling by the end of this rain event.

Along with the warnings about floods and heavy rain, there are strong wind gusts and dangerous surf forecast, the latter up and down the NSW coast, the BoM said.

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How unusual is all this rain we’re having? The answer? Very

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By Kate Doyle

Posted 57m ago57 minutes ago, updated 9m ago9 minutes ago

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Skinner and Lowes Heritage Wharf, Murwillumbah, Tweed River.(Supplied: Fran Silk)

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There is a lot to get your head around with the weather at the moment.

But here are the answers to five quick questions about the floods.

1. How unusual is this rain?

Very unusual.

The rainfall totals from this event have been staggering. 

From 9am Thursday to 9am Monday three stations recorded over a metre of rain:

– 1637mm at Mount Glorious, QLD 
– 1180mm at Pomona, QLD
– 1094mm at Bracken Ridge 

Brisbane has absolutely smashed its three-day rainfall record with 677mm, by recording over 200mm each day for three days in a row.

Before this week it had never even had two consecutive days over 200mm and had only ever recorded eight in total.

The mean annual rainfall for Brisbane is 1011.5mm and it recorded 741mm in just the four days from 9am Thursday and 9am Monday.

Speaking of records, Weatherzone is reporting Dunoon in NSW recorded the second-highest daily rainfall total in NSW when 775mm fell in just the 24 hours to 9am Monday.

If you are not sick of stats yet, Doon Doon in NSW picked up a whopping 1040mm of rain in just the 48 hours to 9am Tuesday. That is over a metre of rain in just two days.

But it is not just the big totals that have made this rainfall event unusual.

Bofu Yu of Griffith University’s School of Engineering and Built Environment and Australian Rivers Institute observed that while the rainfall amount over south-east Queensland from Thursday to Sunday was huge and widespread, the intensity of rain was moderate at around 50mm per hour.

“This is distinct from the 2011 event when rainfall was concentrated in the western part of the Brisbane River Basin with a much higher peak rainfall intensity,” Dr Yu said.

The result is the rainfall has been spread far more liberally around the catchment this time and more water is flowing down the small creeks and tributaries, which has a flow-on effect further downstream.

the roof of a building protrudes from floodwaters
Skinner and Lowes Heritage Wharf, Murwillumbah, Tweed River.(Supplied: Fran Silk)

“The peak discharge may not be as high compared to the 2011 flood, but high flows will persist over a much longer period of time,” Dr Yu explained.

South-east Queensland and northern NSW are historically flood prone and have certainly flooded before but this event is definitely different from those we have seen in the past.

2. Is climate change involved?

Attributing any one event to climate change is tricky, especially in the case of rain, which has many contributing factors.

But there is a clear link between a warming atmosphere and its ability to hold more moisture and deliver that moisture in the form of heavy rain.

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“With each degree increase in the atmospheric temperatures, air can hold roughly 7 per cent more water vapour that is eventually available to fall as rain,” as Nina Ridder, research associate in the UNSW Climate Change Research Centre, explained.

“This means that under future conditions which are likely to be higher than what we have seen in the past.

“Over the past decades we have already seen an increase in the number and intensity of extreme rainfall events and we are expecting this trend to continue into the future.”

Another major climatic factor at play at the moment is the La Niña, which the BOM declared last year. It has been busy enhancing the rainfall over Australia all summer.

When La Niña conditions are in place warm tropical waters in the north and strong trade winds from the east encourage moisture onto Australia.

So, when individual weather systems come through it gives them another moisture kick.

David Karoly, Honorary Professor in the University of Melbourne School of Geography, Earth and Atmospheric Sciences, concludes that both climate change and the occurrence of La Niña are likely to have contributed to the increased risk of heavy rainfall in south-east Queensland in the current event.

“The difficult part is to precisely quantify the increase in risk or the contribution to the amount of rainfall, both of which are uncertain,” he said.

Clouds and a rain haze over the CBD in the distance behind a wet Brisbane street
Brisbane has experienced an extraordinary amount of rain over the past few days.(ABC News: Michael Rennie)

3. What is a rain bomb?

This event has been commonly referred to as a “rain bomb” over the past few days.

But while it may have felt like the rain has been bombing down, a “rain bomb” is not a meteorological term. 

There is a thing called “bomb cyclogenesis”, which is when a low pressure system develops unusually quickly, but that is not what happened this week. 

Likewise there is another phenomena called a “wet microburst”, which is when a huge amount of rain drops suddenly from a storm, but that is generally over a small area. 

What has been going on over the past week has been a surface trough, with upper atmosphere enhancement funnelling tropical moisture off the Coral Sea onto the coast which was blocked from moving off. 

This created a large area of prolonged heavy rain.

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Flooded canals at the Gold Coast.(Supplied: Reign Scott Drone Imagery)

4. What’s to come?

More extreme weather is forecast over the coming days as an east coast low develops off the NSW coast.

Severe thunderstorm warnings are in place for large parts of New South Wales this evening and flood watches are in place for parts of the NSW coast from Newcastle to Bega, pushing down into Victoria.

Wind gusts are forecast to be up around 90kph and could uproot trees and powerlines.

Where exactly the worst of the impacts will be felt in the coming days will largely depend on where the low moves to.

But heavy rainfall is expected on the southern side of the low, and Sydney residents have been urged to brace for flooding.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/ZH5NGCcp1IA?feature=oembedYOUTUBEWeather forecast

Impacts along the NSW coast are expected to linger until Thursday.

Back up in northern NSW and south-east Queensland it looks like showers and storms could return as soon as Wednesday afternoon.

The BOM is saying there is the potential for severe thunderstorms, heavy rainfall, damaging winds and large hail.

With catchments already on the edge, it is a worrying time for low lying areas

Longer term, summer may be over but there are still two months left of the tropical wet season. 

The autumn outlook suggests wetter-than-average conditions are likely to remain across much of the country. 

Map of AUS green in the north and east
BOM’s autumn outlook indicates above median rainfall is likely for much of the county while fairly average conditions are likely elsewhere. (Supplied: Bureau of Meteorology)

There is still plenty of time for more tropical moisture to make its way south, bringing more heavy rain with it. 

With the catchments so sodden, it won’t take much now to trigger more flooding. 

If you are in a potential risk zone and have not yet thought about what you would do in a flood situation, this would be the time. 

5. Where can I find the latest information?

ABC Emergency is the go-to place for up-to-date local emergency warnings.

The website also has a number of resources on how to prepare for and protect yourself from different disasters and emergencies.

ABC emergency: https://www.abc.net.au/emergency/

Radio frequency: https://reception.abc.net.au

The Bureau of Meteorology releases all its weather warnings on this website: http://www.bom.gov.au/australia/warnings/index.shtml

It also release near daily severe weather updates during big events on its YouTube page.

If you would like the latest updates on rainfall numbers and where all the river levels are sitting across the country that can also be accessed through the BOM website here: http://www.bom.gov.au/australia/flood/?ref=ftr

Flood maps for your local area should be available on your local council website.

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South East Queensland – Local Forecast Areas Map

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South-east Queensland weather emergency continues with Gympie set for record flood peak, live updates

Posted 8h ago8 hours ago, updated 1h ago

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South East Queensland
Queensland
Regions of Queensland with South East Queensland in the bottom right hand corner of the state
Population3,800,000 (2020)[1][2]
 • Density107.8/km2 (279/sq mi)
Established1824
Area35,248 km2 (13,609.3 sq mi)
LGA(s)City of BrisbaneSomerset RegionSunshine Coast RegionMoreton Bay RegionRedland CityLogan CityShire of NoosaScenic Rim RegionCity of IpswichLockyer Valley RegionToowoomba Region[3]
Localities around South East Queensland:Darling DownsWide Bay–BurnettSouth Pacific OceanDarling DownsSouth East QueenslandSouth Pacific OceanDarling DownsNew South Wales North CoastSouth Pacific Ocean

South East Queensland (SEQ) is a bio-geographicalmetropolitan, political, and administrative region of the state of Queensland in Australia, with a population of approximately 3.8 million[2] people out of the state’s population of 5.1 million.[1][4][5]The area covered by South East Queensland varies, depending on the definition of the region, though it tends to include Queensland’s three largest cities: the capital city Brisbane; the Gold Coast; and the Sunshine Coast. Its most common use is for political purposes, and covers 35,248 square kilometres (13,609 sq mi)[6] and incorporates 11 local government areas,[3] extending 240 kilometres (150 mi) from Noosa in the north to the Gold Coast and New South Wales border in the south (some sources include Tweed Heads (NSW) which is contiguous as an urban area with Brisbane/Gold Coast), and 140 kilometres (87 mi) west to Toowoomba (which is simultaneously considered part of the Darling Downs region).

South East Queensland was the first part of Queensland to be settled and explored by Europeans. Settlements initially arose in the Brisbane and Ipswich areas with activity by European immigrants spreading in all directions from there. Various industries such as timber cutting and agriculture quickly developed at locations around the region from the 1840s onwards. Transport links have been shaped by the range of terrains found in South East Queensland.

The economy of South East Queensland supports and relies on a wide diversity of agricultural manufacturing industries, commerce and tourism. The region has an integrated public transport system, TransLink. The gross domestic product is $ 170 billion[2]

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South East Queensland, classified as an interim Australian bioregion, comprises 7,804,921 hectares (19,286,380 acres) and includes the Moreton BasinSouth Burnett, and the Scenic Rim along with ten other biogeographic subregions.[7] The term South East Queensland has no equivalent political representation. The area covers many lower house seats at the federal and state levels. As Queensland has no upper house, there are no Legislative Council provinces or regions to bear the name either.

History[edit]

See also: History of Brisbane

Queensland’s first railway linked Grandchester to Ipswich, 1865

South East Queensland was home to around 20,000 Aboriginals prior to British occupation. The local tribes of the area were the Yugarapul of the Central Brisbane area; the Yugambeh people whose traditional lands ranged from South of the Logan River, down to the Tweed River and west to the McPherson Ranges; the Quandamooka people whose traditional lands encompassed the Moreton Bay Islands to the mouth of the Brisbane River to Tingalpa and south to the Logan River; and the Gubbi Gubbi people whose traditional lands were known to exist north of the Pine River, to Burrum River in the north, and west to the Conondale ranges. According to history researchers the Aboriginal population declined to around 10,000 over the next 60 years.[8]

Early explorers in the area including Matthew FlindersAllan CunninghamJohn Oxley and Patrick Logan. Around 1839, European settlers were able to move into the region. Logging was the first industry to develop. The first railway built in Queensland linked Grandchester to Ipswich in 1865 along a narrow 1067 mm gauge.[9]

An emergency alert has been issued for the Gympie area from the Gympie Regional Council regarding major flooding.

Council advises if you live at Southside and are in an impacted area, you need to evacuate now and seek shelter with friends or family on higher ground. If you live on the hospital side of the river and are in an impacted area, you need to evacuate now and seek shelter with friends or family on higher ground. Take essential medication and secure your property.

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Pfizer quietly warns investors about tidal wave of potential fraud revelations soon to come (op-ed)

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The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) is having a meltdown over being told by the courts that it must now procure the first monthly batch of 55,000 pages of data from Pfizer backing the company’s Wuhan coronavirus (Covid-19) “vaccine.”

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The agency had initially asked if it could get away with producing just 500 pages per month instead, which would have allowed many decades of buffer time to obscure the truth. Legal challenges are speeding up that timeline, however, and Big Pharma is really not happy about the situation.

You see, Pfizer has been raking in the mega-dough from selling its mRNA (messenger RNA) Fauci Flu shots to countries around the world. This year, Pfizer expects to generate upwards of $54 billion in sales – that is, unless its little scam completely falls apart, which is becoming more of a possibility.

In its most recent earnings report from Q4 of last year, Pfizer warned investors that things are not looking to good moving forward. It turns out that whatever is contained within the disclosures is not exactly favorable to the company and its covid injections.

Many now believe that they reveal fundamental fraud and deception as the basis behind the “science” that was used by the FDA to first emergency use authorize (EUA), then approve, Pfizer’s experimental gene therapy injection.

The Q4 earnings report explains to investors that there could be “unfavorable new pre-clinical, clinical or safety data and further analyses of existing pre-clinical, clinical or safety data or further information regarding the quality of pre-clinical, clinical or safety data, including by audit or inspection” revealed throughout this process.

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The report further mentions that “challenges driven by misinformation” could affect the company’s stock price moving forward, this being a signal to investors that the Pfizer gravy train is soon coming to an end due to “concerns about clinical data integrity.”

Now that Pfizer has made billions due to fraud, the company says covid could magically “disappear entirely”

Interestingly, Pfizer also made reference in its report to the fact that the time of the plandemic could be coming to an end right – how convenient! – as a critical mass of the world’s population finally wakes up to the truth about the plandemic scam.

Pfizer actually admitted in the report that the plandemic will probably now “diminish in severity or prevalence, or disappear entirely” – again, how convenient.

It would seem as though Pfizer’s goal all along was to milk the planet for obscene profits for as long as possible on the back of its “vaccine” scam. Knowing that people would eventually start figuring it all out, however, the plan was baked in such a way as to hide all of the incriminating clinical trial data until 2076 when many of the people currently alive are long gone, allowing Pfizer and its investors to run with the cash scot-free.

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These devious plans are now getting thwarted, thankfully, as the 2076 timetable is moving closer towards a now timeline due to ongoing lawsuits. This has basically forced Pfizer’s hand, resulting in a death knell for its stock price.

“How would a trial for crimes against humanity impact the business?” asked someone at Zero Hedge, reading the writing on the wall.

“It wasn’t for nothing,” said someone else about the persistence of lockdowns and mandates, which we now know did nothing to stop the spread.

“It was for depopulation, profits, control and they probably were able to figure just the right formula to get most of the population to drop dead at about the same time. Brought to you by Pfizer.”

More related news about Pfizer’s deadly covid injections can be found at Corruption.news.

Ethan Huff 

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DARWIN – 19 FEBRUARY 1942

On 19 February 1942, the Japanese mounted two air raids on Darwin and mainland Australia came under foreign attack for the first time since white settlement.

Admiral Chūichi Nagumo (1887 – 1944), the mastermind of the Pearl Harbor attack on 7 December 1941, planned the Darwin raids, which involved 54 land-based bombers and 188 aircraft launched from four aircraft carriers operating in the Timor Sea. The Japanese, who were preparing to invade Timor, correctly surmised that a disruptive air attack on the Darwin base would hinder any Allied counteroffensive.

Admiral Chūichi Nagumo

The first attack began just before 10.00 am and lasted 40 minutes. Heavy bombers struck harbour installations and the town, while dive bombers, escorted by Zero fighters, attacked shipping in the harbour, the military and civil aerodromes and the hospital at Berrimah. The second raid began an hour later and involved high altitude bombing of the Royal Australian Air Force (RAAF) base at Parap. This raid lasted about 20 minutes.

Singapore had fallen to the Japanese only days earlier and the civilian population of Darwin, believing that an invasion was imminent, panicked. Looting and disorder was rife and approximately half the city fled south in an event which became known as the ‘Adelaide River Stakes’. Hundreds of Australian servicemen abandoned their posts. Three days after the attack 278 servicemen were still missing.

Together the two raids killed at least 243 people and between 300 and 400 were wounded. Twenty military aircraft were destroyed, eight ships at anchor in the harbour were sunk, and most civil and military facilities in Darwin were destroyed. The Australian government, concerned at the effect of the bombing on national morale, played down the event and claimed that only 17 people had been killed.

Australian soldiers survey the damage inflicted by Japanese bombers.

In the coming months other northern Australia towns, such as Townsville, Katherine, Wyndham, Derby, Broome and Port Hedland, would suffer from Japanese air attack. Further south, Sydney and Newcastle were attacked by submarines. Darwin would be bombed a total of 64 times, the last raids occurring in November 1943. None of these subsequent raids would, however, match the ferocity of those on 19 February 1942.

-Neil Sharkey

Labor’s Approach to China

Morrison has accused Labor of being China’s dupe. Here’s what Penny Wong has to say about Labor’s approach to China

By Stan Grant

Labor and the Coalition may be broadly in agreement about the risks and threats of China and the volatility of geopolitics. But they have very different approaches and they use very different language, writes Stan Grant.

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Bank Outages at all big 5 Canadian Banks

On Monday, the world — at least the free thinking, non-authoritarian world — was shocked when Canada’s prime minister, Justin Trudeau, declared dictatorial powers over the people of Canada by invoking wartime powers. He then labelled the peaceful protesters terrorists, claimed they were carrying out an “illegal occupation,” claimed the ability to seize their assets without due process using private banks, and empowered police and military to help him carry out those orders.

To anyone who has ever studied history, they see these moves by the Canadian government as a massive step to transform their parliamentary democracy into a fascist state. Freezing assets and government taking money from citizens over a peaceful protest, is a direct affront to any semblance of a free society.

During another interview on Wednesday night, Canada’s Justice Minister David Lametti told a reporter that anyone who donated money to the Canadian Freedom Convoy, should “be worried” about having their bank accounts frozen.

Days after Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau said he would invoke emergency orders to crack down on demonstrators by freezing their bank accounts, five major Canadian banks went offline on Wednesday night, as customers reported their funds were unavailable, according to technology website Bleeping Computer.

There were countless stories of banking customers who experienced trouble accessing their funds yesterday evening. No bank explained the source of the outrage, but essential to note the outage comes, as we said above, days after Trudeau invoked the Emergencies Act.

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I found my husband watching porn and now I feel betrayed

The question I walked in on my husband watching porn and now I feel extraordinarily hurt and abandoned.

My grown-up children have left home and I have managed to have a rewarding career. However, having a good relationship always eluded me until I was in my 50s.

I have been married before and I am in my early 60s now. We have been together for a while. I thought we were ecstatically happy and that, at last, I was in a truly fulfilling and equal relationship. I now doubt all this, and have lost respect for my husband. We have tried to talk about it, and he is only sorry that I am upset and doesn’t seem sorry that he used porn. He must know women are often exploited and always objectified in these situations. He says his love for me is as it ever was, and says he’ll stop if I want, but I want him to want not to do it

You’ve discovered that you and your husband have different views about porn – and this may have triggered your teenage trauma

Close view of senior couple having a serious conversation. The focus is on the woman who is talking to the senior man. She looks concerned and worried. On the left, the man is in soft focus and looking away. They are casually dressed. Only head and shoulders are visible.
‘It is important that you have sympathy for each other’s points of view.’ Photograph: John Kirk/Getty Images
Philippa Perry

Philippa PerrySun 30 Jan 2022 17.00 AEDT

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The question I walked in on my husband watching porn and now I feel extraordinarily hurt and abandoned.

My grown-up children have left home and I have managed to have a rewarding career. However, having a good relationship always eluded me until I was in my 50s.

I have been married before and I am in my early 60s now. We have been together for a while. I thought we were ecstatically happy and that, at last, I was in a truly fulfilling and equal relationship. I now doubt all this, and have lost respect for my husband. We have tried to talk about it, and he is only sorry that I am upset and doesn’t seem sorry that he used porn. He must know women are often exploited and always objectified in these situations. He says his love for me is as it ever was, and says he’ll stop if I want, but I want him to want not to do it.

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I experienced a serious trauma when I was in my teens and have had bouts of depression since then. I have not been good at choosing the right men to have relationships with, but with years of counselling I managed to turn my life around. I really thought that this time, by being with a kind and interested man I had at last got it right, but now I’m unsure.

I feel betrayed by my husband using porn. It is as though he has been cheating on me.

Philippa’s answer I’m not saying using porn is right or wrong, because me declaring judgment on it won’t change anyone’s behaviour. It is more useful to understand it. And yes, I dislike the objectifying, potentially exploitative side of the porn industry. But I can also understand it’s nice to have a little private pleasure. A bit like having a lovely, satisfying poo that you wouldn’t necessarily tell anyone about.

You mentioned your teenage trauma, so I’m thinking it is still relevant. What trauma can do is shatter previously held beliefs such as: “Most people are good and trustworthy.” After the trauma, you may have developed rigid rules like emergency measures that come with new beliefs such as, “I shouldn’t trust anyone.” I’m wondering whether discovering something new about your husband which is hard for you to understand means you’ve reverted to this type of emergency-mode way of thinking – thinking in very “all or nothing” terms. You’ve gone from “ecstatically happy” to what sounds like panic – that marrying was a mistake, as though your discovery may have reactivated this old trauma and tipped you into an emergency trauma-mode mindset.

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What you are doing is discovering something new about him. It’s a part of him, it’s not all of him. Some of us tend to assume that sex means the same thing to our partners that it does to us. This is not done consciously but in a sort of take-it-for-granted way, and it is often left unsaid. This is why it can be a great shock when differences are found. You might be feeling excluded because he kept this part of his sexual life a secret. Maybe you find it disgusting and feel contaminated by it. It might be tantamount to him having sex with someone else. But for him, porn is probably nothing to do with his real-life relationship with you, but instead about his relationship with himself.

Beware of seeing the issue in terms of just right and wrong

The thing to remember is that each of you will have formed different attitudes to relationships and to sex and to porn: this might be difficult to explain or talk about because both of you might not have been in the habit of putting non-conscious assumptions about sex or porn into words (perhaps not even to yourselves). But I want to encourage you to keep trying, so that each of you can understand the other. I don’t think you’ll ever be on exactly the same page, but I do think it is important that you both really understand what is on your respective pages and have sympathy for each other’s points of view.

He has probably been watching porn in private moments all the time you have been together, and all the while you loved and trusted him and felt “ecstatically happy”. He may need private time to masturbate, but whether you want this to be kept secret from you is something else to talk about. There is a difference between privacy and secrecy. The former is OK and the latter can feel like betrayal. I hope you can find a way of talking about how you each do privacy, how you need it and how you use it. It might enrich your relationship.

Porn can be destructive when it is addictive, but as he offered to give it up if you wanted him to, it does not sound like he has an addiction to it.

Beware of seeing this issue in terms of just right and wrong, and keep the dialogue open. Porn is what the genitals enjoy in private. This might be very different to who we each are with each other.

You’ve discovered that you and your husband have different views about porn – and this may have triggered your teenage trauma

Close view of senior couple having a serious conversation. The focus is on the woman who is talking to the senior man. She looks concerned and worried. On the left, the man is in soft focus and looking away. They are casually dressed. Only head and shoulders are visible.
‘It is important that you have sympathy for each other’s points of view.’ Photograph: John Kirk/Getty Images
Philippa Perry

Philippa PerrySun 30 Jan 2022 17.00 AEDT

508

The question I walked in on my husband watching porn and now I feel extraordinarily hurt and abandoned.

My grown-up children have left home and I have managed to have a rewarding career. However, having a good relationship always eluded me until I was in my 50s.

I have been married before and I am in my early 60s now. We have been together for a while. I thought we were ecstatically happy and that, at last, I was in a truly fulfilling and equal relationship. I now doubt all this, and have lost respect for my husband. We have tried to talk about it, and he is only sorry that I am upset and doesn’t seem sorry that he used porn. He must know women are often exploited and always objectified in these situations. He says his love for me is as it ever was, and says he’ll stop if I want, but I want him to want not to do it.

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I experienced a serious trauma when I was in my teens and have had bouts of depression since then. I have not been good at choosing the right men to have relationships with, but with years of counselling I managed to turn my life around. I really thought that this time, by being with a kind and interested man I had at last got it right, but now I’m unsure.

I feel betrayed by my husband using porn. It is as though he has been cheating on me.

Philippa’s answer I’m not saying using porn is right or wrong, because me declaring judgment on it won’t change anyone’s behaviour. It is more useful to understand it. And yes, I dislike the objectifying, potentially exploitative side of the porn industry. But I can also understand it’s nice to have a little private pleasure. A bit like having a lovely, satisfying poo that you wouldn’t necessarily tell anyone about.

You mentioned your teenage trauma, so I’m thinking it is still relevant. What trauma can do is shatter previously held beliefs such as: “Most people are good and trustworthy.” After the trauma, you may have developed rigid rules like emergency measures that come with new beliefs such as, “I shouldn’t trust anyone.” I’m wondering whether discovering something new about your husband which is hard for you to understand means you’ve reverted to this type of emergency-mode way of thinking – thinking in very “all or nothing” terms. You’ve gone from “ecstatically happy” to what sounds like panic – that marrying was a mistake, as though your discovery may have reactivated this old trauma and tipped you into an emergency trauma-mode mindset.

https://3d09d839eee721b8aa61957788225513.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-38/html/container.html

What you are doing is discovering something new about him. It’s a part of him, it’s not all of him. Some of us tend to assume that sex means the same thing to our partners that it does to us. This is not done consciously but in a sort of take-it-for-granted way, and it is often left unsaid. This is why it can be a great shock when differences are found. You might be feeling excluded because he kept this part of his sexual life a secret. Maybe you find it disgusting and feel contaminated by it. It might be tantamount to him having sex with someone else. But for him, porn is probably nothing to do with his real-life relationship with you, but instead about his relationship with himself.

Beware of seeing the issue in terms of just right and wrong

The thing to remember is that each of you will have formed different attitudes to relationships and to sex and to porn: this might be difficult to explain or talk about because both of you might not have been in the habit of putting non-conscious assumptions about sex or porn into words (perhaps not even to yourselves). But I want to encourage you to keep trying, so that each of you can understand the other. I don’t think you’ll ever be on exactly the same page, but I do think it is important that you both really understand what is on your respective pages and have sympathy for each other’s points of view.

He has probably been watching porn in private moments all the time you have been together, and all the while you loved and trusted him and felt “ecstatically happy”. He may need private time to masturbate, but whether you want this to be kept secret from you is something else to talk about. There is a difference between privacy and secrecy. The former is OK and the latter can feel like betrayal. I hope you can find a way of talking about how you each do privacy, how you need it and how you use it. It might enrich your relationship.

Porn can be destructive when it is addictive, but as he offered to give it up if you wanted him to, it does not sound like he has an addiction to it.

Beware of seeing this issue in terms of just right and wrong, and keep the dialogue open. Porn is what the genitals enjoy in private. This might be very different to who we each are with each other.