Uta’s Diary, June 2015

Peter took this picture near BELVOIR Theatre on Sunday.
Peter took this picture near BELVOIR Theatre on Sunday.
Peter says he took this picture because the lake can be seen a little bit in the background.
Peter says he took this picture because the lake can be seen a little bit in the background.

I must admit it never occurred to me that it was possible to see the lake from this spot at the OAK FLATS BOWLING CLUB. I am talking of course of LAKE ILLAWARRA. We used to live near the BOWLING CLUB. To go down to the lake took us only a few minutes.

Last Sunday we had mostly sunshine. It was very pleasant to be out in the sunshine near the lake where we went for a walk. Later, in the Bowling Club, where we had lunch, it was beautiful warm. We stayed there with our friends for three and a half hours! It was good to see them, catching up on all the new.

Peter later complained to me that we were talking too much about sicknesses. Klaus and Tilde are about the same age as we are. They are thinking about selling their home to move to a retirement village. That makes me wonder whether Peter and I are going to be able to cope indefinitely in our own home.

Our friends know people who had to move to a nursing home. They pointed out how awful it must be to move from a large, comfortable home to a confined space in a nursing home. However, once you do need constant nursing care, you do not have much of a choice, do you?

When husband and wife, both need to be in a nursing home, it can happen, that they are being separated and have to move to different nursing homes. Even if they end up in the same nursing home, they would probably have separate rooms, each one of them sharing their room with one or more strangers.

We were discussing how fortunate people are who die before they have to go into a nursing home. To live in a retirement village it is different, of course. You have your own private unit where couples can stay together. But you do get help with the things you cannot do for yourself anymore.

The disadvantage is that these residences are usually privately run and can cost quite a bit of money for the private organisations do have to make a profit for their share-holders. Peter’s and my mantra seems to be to stay as healthy as possible for as long as possible!

At the moment we have quite a bit of rain here in Dapto. It has been raining off and on since Sunday night. Monday morning I went for a little walk before it starting raining again. Today, Tuesday, it is very wet and cold. No sunshine, none whatsoever. Ah well, I am comfortably warm near a heater.

Around lunchtime we’ll be going out to buy some groceries. Peter hopes that the rain is going to ease off a bit so that he can go for some running before we go out in our car for our shopping. Peter did not do any running for a couple of days. So he’s really keen to do it today.

4 thoughts on “Uta’s Diary, June 2015

  1. It does seem that for some older people, the only topic of conversation is health – but I suppose it looms large in our lives, and there is always the uncertainty of how long we’ll live, how long we’ll be able to stay in our home, together, and what will happen when we can’t. I’m glad, in retrospect, that I had to downsize when I got divorced in my sixties. I wouldn’t want the hassle in my eighties. And I’m also glad that my mother has been able to stay in her own home, where she has been since 1938, because I was free to come and look after her. None of that was planned – sometimes, you just can’t cover all eventualities! But I do believe that God is in charge of it all, and finds a way if you let him.

    1. I like your comment very much, dear Catt. You and your mother are very blessed. I know, that downsizing, when you are in you eighties, can be a big problem! When the time comes for us, we just have to do something about it. So far we have no definite plans. But we plan another overseas trip for next year. This is quite exciting but also a bit scary at our age. The Australian family plans a big family get together with the German family! 🙂

  2. In my family we’ve always worked very hard to support independent living as long as we can. My grandmothers both lived in their homes until they passed away at almost 90. It took a lot of extra work on the part of my parents, however, and now my parents are in their 80s and still in their homes. It’s sometimes a lot of work for me to help out as much as I do, but it seems to be the way it works best in our case. Of course, if health issues come up to interfere, that’s an entirely different story. There isn’t a one-size-fits-all template for this stage of life, that’s for sure. I do think that those of us who have helpful and loving families have it a lot better than those who don’t–and I have plenty of friends who don’t have much support at all. I think looking forward to your big trip next year is definitely going to keep you independent for a very long time. 🙂

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